should i help people?

Question

I help people whenever they need it but when i need help i do not find any help from any corner no one comes to my aid neither those persons whom i have helped and these people often refuse me shamelesly.Even my close relatives refuse to help me when i need them most.what should i do should i stop helping people ? please tell me..

Answer 1

You are the one that everyone else sees as being strong and independent. In the past when you have asked for help and they have declined I bet you have managed to do it yourself or get bye and they are all aware of it. If this is so this is why they decline as they think although you may ask for help you can do it on your own and will be fine. I understand where you are coming from in regards to them not reciprocating as although you may be independent it is nice to know that you have support if and when needed.. No matter what we all need to know if need be we can have someone to rely on and for some of us this alone is enough to help us get over those hurdles in life and give us the strength to take them on and survive. If helping others makes you happy then keep doing it. If it is upsetting you then next time they ask for help don't turn them away but use it as a opportunity while you are helping to explain your feelings to them.

Answer 2

Helping people is great. But if you feel that beause you help people and don't get anything in return that you should stop, them maybe you are doing it for the wrong reason?? Doesn't it feel good to help others? You are good to want to do this, but don't rely on what you get in return. Sometimes though, a person really does need help, and it hurts when they've helped someone and that person doesn't return the favor. My advice, is to percevere. Don't hold a grudge because that only hurts you more than the other person.

Answer 3

i truly know how you feel but look at like this if you stopped helping and i stopped helping and the nameber stops help and the guy down the street stops helping then who do the kids look up to ....are kids are the fecher and what you do they do its simple you can tell them not to or don't or stop but they do it any ways monkey see monkey do your probably wonder what does that got to do with my question its simple your role model and you may not see that way but some one some where is ! this world would turn in a very selfish place and no one would want to be on this plant ....my advice is don't stop helping other just cause they wont help you .............your the one who has to answer to god in the end and so does you namber i know i want to make it through that gate i don't want be here on earth trying to put right what i did wrong and learn all there is learn all over again

Answer 4

2 wrong's dont make a right,unfortunately,i feel like that all the time,i go outta my way,and have to hear an earful,or some lame excuse why i cant get help,and i go off at the time! lol but honestly,u doing good,will come back in 1 way or another,and ur not the 1 that has anything to feel guilty about! ss,ur situation,but being a good man,is a great asset,esp when he gets nothing in return!

Answer 5

Yes, but don't help people who use you.



Some people are "fair weather friends", that means when they need something or get "bored enough to hang out with you", POOF! you are in their life.



Kick those ******* to the curb. Continue to help those who are worthy or can't help themselves.



If you have a true need and a person you have helped will not help you, scratch them off your list. You deserve better.

Answer 6

No you should not stop helping people, if helping people makes you feel good about your self and it is coming from your heart, God will reward you in his own way! But if you are helping these people just because you think that it is making you look good to them, you should stop, because they will abuse your kindness and not help you in return! When you are helping someone you are not suppose to expect pay-back! It is suppose to be coming from the heart! As long as you expect something back in return, you will never receive it!!!

Answer 7

No, don't stop helping people. I sometimes feel that I suffer the same fate, but I cannot help helping people. Truth is, the "reward" that comes from helping people seldom comes from the people you helped. It also does not come in a manner that you could directly link to the help you rendered earlier.

Please keep helping others.

Answer 8

I think that happens to everyone. You offer help to everyone but no one helps back. It's really up to you if you can turn a person in need down. I tend to help anyways because I know in the long run the man upstairs is counting my good deeds.

Answer 9

I feel the same you do. I am always there for other people. But when I need help no one is there for me. So, I stopped helping those people. I do help people but not the ones that would not help me when I needed it.

Answer 10

Word of advice, people who dont help you or try to help you, you should not be going out of your way to help them. It is clear to see that these people are just using you to get what they want. You have got to toughen up. Its a dog eat dog world. Survival of the fittest. However, there are some true friends out there, you just havent found them yet.

Answer 11

well it's really heartening to know that you 've this rare habbit of helping others,God bless you,

ok now whether you should keep it going or not--i think you should carry on with the good work,remember if you are not getting any help from human beings ,no problems coz God will.

so best of luck

Answer 12

I know how you feel. I am in the same boat.



I feel that one day good things will come back to those who help others.



I would still help and feel good in yourself that you are the better person.

Answer 13

Continue to help the ones in desperate need but only in desperate need. Then maybe someone that needs you will relize that they didnt help you when you needed them and will more than likely relize their mistake.

Answer 14

keep helping people , you will be rewarded for it someday. You are very rare, people that you have helped just haven't stopped and thought about what you have done for them, and tried to return the kindness. I think you feel in your heart that you want to continue to help people. It is your gift, please continue.

Answer 15

Never stop helping people...



Even though, they dont reciprocate, you should "not" help people with the idea that they are to help you...



You help people out of the "goodness of your heart" with out any sense of reward...



If you expect recirpocation, then you stipulate it in your deal, with them...



Generosity is never rewarded, its a reward in itself...





I wish you well..



Jesse

Answer 16

world is very lucky to have people like the answerers of this question. they're showing good heart for saying we should help people.

we should always be happy to give help to those in need.................

most people tend to forget to do good things to other people b'coz they think like the one said; it does not pay to be nice.

as long as we want to have good relationship to other people, lets show patience and LOVE not hate... GODBLESS!

Answer 17

some people are conditional they want you for the help yet won't help you perhaps if you were able to help those who would appreachate your help and be willing to help you in return as for those around you now i wouldn't help them anymore apprently there using you but i would continue helping those who do appreachate you and would help you in return

Answer 18

i help people all the time and even though i can't get help from them something always turns up to help me any way.

Answer 19

u hav to tell them u nid help too. u listen to their problems, help them so ppl assumed tt u r problem-solver w no worries too. its wise to voice out hw u feel to them so dey will understand too. its not gd to kept it in ur mind n heart, u may stress out one day.



take care :)

Answer 20

NO NO NO NO NO.Never help anyone.

It doesn't pay to be nice.

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Answer 21

help limited ppl and give them limited help,also dont expect anything in return!

Answer 22

first of all let me thank you for speaking my mind ,what a great relief that I'm not alone in this boat of denial,my advice is to please yourself not others

Answer 23

yes you should help people

Answer 24

don't stop helping people......... I know exactly how you feel...... it sucks when noone will help you......... but still choose to be a good person...........

Answer 25

no just do not help the ones that ignore you my mom helps all my friends out all the time but they never ignore her !!! but i do think and then i dont i dunno i am a blonde !!!!!

Answer 26

KNOW THIS, WHAT YOU DO FOR OTHERS SELFISHLY WILL COME BACK TO YOU THREE FOLD...BE PATIENT. YOU TURN WILL COME..

Answer 27

"Ask not what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country" JFK++

Answer 28

DO NT STOP

Answer 29

hm...idk