How do I convince my mom not to make us move in with her boyfriend ? He gives me the creeps?

Question

They've been together for almost two years now, since I was 12, but I never really got comfortable around him. The first time I ever saw him he naturally gave me the creeps but I never said anything about it because I didn't think it was a big deal. I figured over time I would get used to him being around. But it never changed.

I'm 14 now and I hate him. He started coming over to the house a lot about a year ago and I always tried to avoid him but he would always find a way to come bother me. Especially when my mom wasn't there. He would come in my room and lay on my bed and stuff, which wasn't really that bad but it got worse. He wanted me to lay down next to him and stuff like that and then when I wouldn't he would tell my mom I was being disrespectful or something stupid like that and I would always get in trouble for it.

He still does this stuff but sometimes I just give into it because I don't want to get in trouble and not be able to go out with my friends. Lately he's been asking me really personal questions. Like the things I've ever done with a boy, or what a boy has ever done to me. I try to ignore him but that only makes him mad. And when I tell him I havn't done certain things he'll say stuff like "Oh its fun, maybe one day I could teach you" or "You should try it, your getting too old and nobodies going to want you if you wait" or "You should be more experienced by now". He's never tried anything but I feel like hes going to soon.

Anyways the reason why we gotta move in with him is because my mom lost her job. I don't want to tell on her boyfriend because I really doubt she'd believe me because she knows I never really liked him. I had told her a few times how I felt about him and how he scared me sometimes but she would always say that I just needed to give him time and that we would both adjust soon. So I need to find another way to convince her not to move in with him. We don't really have any close family so she probably wouldn't let me go somewhere else. I just need some ideas. Thanks.

Answer 1

Assuming you're not a troll... This is really bad, a grown man should not be talking like this to a a young girl. Do you have the possibility to do a recording from your phone/laptop? If you could do that when he is in your room (without him noticing) then you would have something to prove what you are saying if you are afraid your mom won't belive you. If your mom doesn't listen to you, or ignores you you really should go and talk to another adult, maybe a teacher or a consultant at your school, because whwat this man is doing is NOT ok and he seems very likely to do something to you. (Not to scare you, but it is quite worrying) This does sound like its taken straight from a movie, and if you have watched any movies with this theme...they don't end good...

Answer 2

You have been being groomed by a pedophile ,and now he's got you two where he wants you.You MUST tell your Mom, your school counselor or even the police if Mom won't listen.Job#1 for your Mom is keeping you safe, and you have every right to expect, no, demand this of her.If you have to, refuse to go to this man's house, no matter how much of a scene you have to cause.Tell her you will NEVER adjust to being molested.And it will happen if you move in with Uncle Creepy.



Look him up on www.familywatchdogus.org . Just put in his ZIP code. He may be using a fake name, and this site usually has pics.

Answer 3

first of all I'm a single mom with a daughter and a relationship of 2 years. Never did this guy try to hang around her or speak to her about anything personal. What you're saying is NOT normal.

Also its not his business to talk to you about SEX or MAN in your life that is YOUR " A" MOTHER RESPONSIBILITY .



There is no way u would be able to convince your mom to believe anything you have to say cause she is BLINDLY in love with this man. ALSO she is out of a job. He has more over her with helping out with money wise and like you say a place to live.



You need to start telling your a family member what is going on, and speak with your guidance council in school because THIS CREEP IS OUT TO GET YOU.

Answer 4

You've got to talk to people. If your mother will not listen, then go to relatives, teachers and adults at your school, or the parents of close friends.

Don't let him near you. If he does ANYTHING to you, you must go to the police. He won't stop by himself. He probably won't stop because you ask him to. The best thing is to stay far away from such people.

Be adamant that you do not want to live with him. Explain why. Tell her everything. Honestly, everything.

If she doesn't listen, talk and don't let anyone stop you.

Best of luck to you.



EDIT: Show your mother this question and the answers that have come of it.

Answer 5

Try talking with your mom again. Let her know EXACTLY what he is saying and doing. If you can, record him doing it. This is very serious stuff. I've heard of dirt bags like him using mom's to get to the young daughters. Do some research on your own too. Find out his full name and do a search on the net for him. Good luck.

Answer 6

Him saying he'll teach you, means no doubt he''s a sexual predator! If that doesn't worry your mom, what will ? If he does something and gets charged, so can she!



Don't give in to him one bit, tell him to totally cut all that out, or your telling your school, or the police, they take this stuff very seriously, because it is!



Your right to feel creeped out, he's sick! I'm glad you posted on this, and sure you'll get plenty more advice.

Answer 7

Definatly tel your mom if she doesn't listen then tell a trusty adult. I am so glad you posted this b4 anything happened 2 u. Avoid him as much as possible, if you have a lock in the room use it wen u r alone with him. Try to record him or secretly videotape him this is very serious get help!!

Answer 8

I have a feeling he wants to do things with you he shouldn't when your mom is not around and is just using your mom to get to you. Basically he is a sleaze. Get some help from a school councilor here or you could end up his play thing.

Answer 9

You need to tell her what he's been doing. Even if she doesn't believe you. Talk to your school counselor as well. The more adults that are involved in this situation the better.

Answer 10

Your room is your privacy! You don't have to let him in there if you don't want to. Tell your mom, your guidance counsellor, tell somebody! Trust your instincts! He is a creep! Stay safe, do something about it! Don't stay afraid...stay smart...be confident...telling someone is...doing the right thing! Thanks for asking!

Answer 11

You have to speak with your guidance counsellor and your principal, they can help you and no one will know you spoke with them. This is serious. Do not trust this guy, eventually something is going to happen. YOU HAVE TO TELL YOUR MOTHER!!!

Answer 12

Please, Please speak to an adult you trust immediately. Your inner voice is trying to protect you. You are NOT being paranoid, and you have nothing to be ashamed of ; you are not wrong, He is! The fact that you are uncomfortable is something that cannot be ignored. PLEASE talk to someone ASAP! I wish you Safety, and God' Blessings.

Answer 13

omg if your mom doesnt pay attention to you then ignore her and record it somehow then show her watts up

or whats goin on