What do you think of this?

Question

I've recently (4 months ago) joined a college student Christian group and I have noticed a guy who I think is kind of cute. We were int he same small group during one meeting in December, but we haven't been in the same group since. I see him, and I was in his line of sight tonight at the meeting so I'm pretty sure he's seen me. He's known to be really nice but shy and keeps to himself, he even sat down by himself when he came in with his friends before the meeting.

I've been hoping to go up to a him after meetings to say hi, but it never works out (he's either talking to someone or I can't get out of the conversation I'm having when he is free). I'm a senior and he's a junior, and I only have 3 months left of undergrad here so if I'm gonna meet him I want to do so before spring break (the next meeting is after springbreak and I don't know when I'll see him again before that). I have resolved to add him on facebook, and then sending a message about how I had been talking to one of the leaders of the group about meeting new people and they mentioned him among some people, and ask him if he wants to meet up over coffee or something to talk about our faith. How does this sound? How would a guy take it if a girl he saw every month added him and sent him that?

Answer 1

Don't hide behind facebook while you're on school break, at this early stage communication must be direct.

Just speak to him after session. If he's talking to someone, just wait, smile, hover nearby whatever.

Don't say the elders told me to talk to you. Just start talking, say it would be interesting to hear about his religious journey etc.



**Are you sure you want to pursue romantic involvement with someone in your new church group? I'm not saying you can't meet people in religious settings but...if you're serious about your faith perhaps its not worth jeapordising this new community for one bit of tail? Could really undermine your standing with other memebers too.

Answer 2

What you said seems OK and you adding him on Facebook could be a sign for him to show that you don't mind to get to know him better etc.



Keep it plain and simple for a couple of days , so have a consent conversation with him for couple days and than just ask him what he is doing on the weekend and go from there.



Simply he should see that you are interested and want to get to know him better and if he also agrees for a coffee well its a great start.



Wish you the best

Answer 3

I like the idea of meeting him in person but if you can't do it then go for the FB option. If the guys into you it won't matter and I'd be stoked if I was him and was attracted to you. I like the approach you would use on FB. I hope it works for you.

Answer 4

that sounds like a really good plan and and i say go for it. You may have to get a little head strong to get him alone to ask him out. but you can do it! good luck!