Question:
So how is beating females so bad yet females can abuse men?
Tentacruel
2008-12-22 13:47:18 UTC
I alaways ponderd this, in the animal kingdom you can see the alpha anything for example have a female with it, if the female is out of line it will hurt the female, but a female could do the exact same thing.


I don't think men beating females is cowardlly but more natural from our history than anything, i try to view it in a scientific way, for example i notice in alot of movies that if a man somehow harms the female mentally or pyhsically he is the villan but if it's the female doing it she is considerd a hero, also alot of people like me are accussed of BEING a person that beats females, how can people acuse so blindly? i mean that's like a person saying he hates gays but people say "the ones that hate them are usually in denial themselfs" so when the hell did this become a rule now? i think it was from that thing that happend in the 1970's with the fem groups and stuff.


It just shows that humans can be very narrow minded and stupid in some cases.


p.s: A perfect example was my brothers old girlfriend, she was crazy and threatend to kill him and slashed his tires, but she wasen't considerd a "coward" of course, just "crazy"
23 answers:
Shanimal Cracker
2008-12-22 13:54:28 UTC
thats very true. i studied this in a psychology course i just took. in fact, the rates of domestic violence are just as common among women and men (women abuse men just as much as they are abused), ALTHOUGH when women are abused their injuries are more severe (probably due to the greater physical strength of men).



in addition to what you're saying about the perception of being cowardly, the media often portrays female violence against men as "funny" or "cute". i.e. in many movies, a female and male will be fighting, the female will slap the man across the face, and all of the sudden they will start making out. if the male had slapped the female in the situation instead, you can bet that the whole country would be up in arms about it!



it is a double standard and it is important for us to note that domestic violence also occurs against men and should not be ignored. here's a video you might be interested in: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NomPlNWeIV8
Annie Rod
2008-12-22 21:54:25 UTC
Physical abuse is unacceptable in all forms.



The reason why it isn't considered to be as bad when a woman does it to a man is because in most cases the man, if he wants to, can keep a woman from hitting him. When a man hits a woman, most of the time the woman isn't strong enough to hold him off of her, and a man is physically able to do much more damage just because the man usually has more body strength. This is of course in cases where no outside weapons are used.



Many men are embarrassed about being threatened such as the example with your brother. Did he report her to the police? Did he break up with her when she began to do these things? If so, how long did he wait to break up with her?
Distracted
2008-12-22 21:52:06 UTC
Females should not be able to abuse males either. Abuse is abuse.



Usually people frown upon man on woman beating because woman are biologically unable to build the muscle mass that men can so they have a disadvantage physically if they were to get in a match.



Double standard? Yes.

But then again it also is when a guy sleeps with a bunch of girls and is considered a player and when a girl sleeps with a bunch of guys she's a whore.
anonymous
2008-12-22 22:06:48 UTC
Alright, let me address this point by point.

1. The animal kingdom- You've got your facts crooked, the human race is the only animal that will intentionally harm/kill members of it's own species for no reason other than it feels like it. The animal kingdom rules on survival of the fittest, not hurt and maim until you are on top.



2. As I've stated above, intentionally inflicting harm on another is not natural, but learned. What you've said has nothing to do with history and you failed to support your argument here.



3. Movies: Movies made about domestic violence generally portray the female victim as a hero when she stands up for herself and her family by getting away from the abuser in whatever means she can. I worked in a domestic violence shelter and we had a client who had killed her husband in self defense to prevent harm or death to herself or her two sons. She served her time and went on to put her life back together. Male or female, an abuser is the villian. Someone who retaliates to save their own lives or the lives of their children is not an abuser any more than a mugging victim who defends themselves is the attacker. Female abusers go to prison and are convicted everyday, unfortunately there is a stigma attached to being a male victim and that is not fair for anyone.



4. As for people who believe as you do being accused of being abusers... my belief is that if you are not doing something to stop it, you are assisting it, whether you act yourself or not. Homosexuality is not the subject here, so I will not comment on that.



5. Yes, humans can be very narrow minded and stupid in some cases... I think you are the perfect example of that.



6. Your brother had the choice to call the police at any time and to get a restraining order against this person, he must have chosen not to.
poisonivy897
2008-12-22 22:07:32 UTC
Okay, so I think you're being really stereotypical towards women because not all females are like the one's you have described. I mean most of the things you are talking about are IN MOVIES. If a women tries to starngle or kill or whatever to her husband it is considered abuse so I don't know what the hell you're talking about saying we can just get away with beating up guys. And the only time "a woman is considered a hero" for hitting her boyfriend is if he's been an abuser throughout their relationship. and what are you talking about in your "P.S" saying how she wasn't being considered a "coward" just "crazy" she should be considered crazy why do you think she should be considedred a coward? I mean beahvior like that is crazy not cowardly. In my oppinion this is just a really uneducated post and I don't even know why I spent the time to even read it/
anonymous
2008-12-22 22:00:29 UTC
The thing that separates humans from animals is our ability to overcome instinct and natural behaviors because we know better. It's okay for EITHER sex to hit anyone as long as it's self defense, but for no other reason. Hitting your wife or girlfriend because she mouthed off about what to make for dinner is not acceptable, nor would it be if a woman did it.
anonymous
2008-12-22 21:56:06 UTC
And if you had called the police she would have been dealt with the same way as if he had done the same to her.



The victimisation of anyone is wrong - and history and biology does not excuse the behaviour - those were the excuses of the people who supported nazism - along with the old favourite "But we were doing what we were told."



If you want to help equality of the sexes, then speak up for the victim regardless of their gender.
anonymous
2008-12-22 22:03:32 UTC
Abuse is abuse, regardless where it comes from.



It's always overlooked when a woman abuses a man because in the eyes of others she simply 'can do no wrong' - plus you see more men beating women than the latter.
noepip
2008-12-22 22:14:29 UTC
to me their is a point where hitting a girl is reasonable and their is a point where it is just wrong for example if she is crazy and tries killing you or harm you in a way and you have no other choice but to throw out a couple of fist but if a girl makes you mad calls you names or does something to your belonging then its wrong if she gets mad and start cussing you out yelling at you saying stuff about you it would be better to talk to her then hit her and if she pops your tires or scratches your car then you always have the police to call if that doesn't work just put a restraining order against her lol that always works
anonymous
2008-12-22 21:52:46 UTC
Well, you never talk about what the authorities do, cause in my case. My aunt would always get hit by uncle and when he retaliated, he would be the one to get arrested, but sometimes he would take her punches till he couldnt take it cause he didnt want to knock her out with one punch, he would call the cops and they would come and arrest her. It goes both way around here.
Zig M
2008-12-22 21:55:56 UTC
Sorry Dude, but the entire philosophy behind this is to RESPECT the female gender!!! Yes I won't agree that if a female keeps threatening, beating you being you as male without any reason then yes she needs to go to psychiatric but there is always a reason why females react to men. Answer this why always women are held responsible for everything from household to outside chores, why then men only say i worked and thats all i have to do??? If you are comparing the 2 equally then try to look at the realities and not the boundaries stupid people have made!!!



Be a man and never held your hand against a woman!!!!



Women is delicate and if you hit hard you lost everything.......!!!!!!!
frida
2008-12-22 22:19:59 UTC
men are obviously more stronger than women and bigger than women. have you gone out and seen how much bigger men are next to women?

that answers your question. i always notice how small women are and men are so big, wide big built. women are also more sensitive. women let their emotions get in the way that is why they are considered crazy. emotions and hormones control women.



men are more in control of themselves and don't have hormones and tons of emotions clouding their brains. men and women are very different, so that is why double standards does exist. they exist for a reason, the reason is obvious.



some people can't accept fact. like wife beaters. a women has to get a knife or gun to defend herself against a guy.



it doesn't take a genius to figure these things out. either you are blind or in denial to not figure it out, which is it?







yeah give thumbs down becaus you can't handle the truth. men and women are very different, if you can't see that you are a fool. men aren't victims, women and children are, they suffer the most. men can defend themselves.
Blue Haired Old Lady
2008-12-22 21:56:01 UTC
I don't think women that beat mean should be considered anything but abusers. I don't approve of women beating men, men beating women or either of them beating children or animals.
anonymous
2008-12-22 21:54:01 UTC
i agree



i heard of a lady once who tried to strangle her ex-boyfriend, tried to push him down the stairs, pushed him, punched him scratched him, so he turned around and punched her in the end..and he went to jail



he has bruises as proof and 2 witnesses





i don't think hitting anyone is fair, but it is a bit one sided isn't it?



but apparently men do get abused almost as much, but are too ashamed to tell anyone or admt it





uuh, kelly? men have feelings too
Mrs. Naumann
2008-12-22 21:51:38 UTC
men are considered to be more stronger than women. so therefore men get n more trouble than women do and it is considered cowardly because you are a man and they are a woman although in this day and time women can be just as mean as men.
Nina
2008-12-22 21:54:51 UTC
Soooooo, you want to do something mean to a girl, don't you?



To answer your question, men are a lot stronger than grils most of the time, so it would be unfair for a guy to hit a girl, but not mean if a girl hits a guy. Of course, abuse is abuse, so no one is supposed to do it, whether they are a guy or girl.

Hope I helped!
Thunder92
2008-12-22 21:53:50 UTC
that wrong to hit a girl coz if she out of line talk to her and if she doesnt want to listen leave her. coz she not the 1 for you.
ferochira
2008-12-22 23:53:41 UTC
You are quite right in some aspects of what you say, but humans are suppose to be the mentally developed ones, we have the capacity to learn and change, we are suppose to be the more intelligent beings.

And ya, just look here to see how many girls think it's funny to kick guys in the crotch and i just love to answer that idiocy with remarks like, hope he blocks that kick and gives you his hardest right in the same place, cause you'd be the first whinny bi*ch to call a cop.

The worst of it is, mothers teach their girls that boys aren't allowed to hit girls, but never once do they tell girls they are not allowed to hit boys either.

I had an incident in which my 7yr old was expelled, showed up at home mid morning in the dead of winter with bare feet and having a full fledged asthma attack and it was i who was ready to kill. I left him at hospital with my mother and charged into that school, the principal refused to see me, i was told to come back after his expulsion was over.

So i told them my son was now in the hospital due to the incredible stupidity and that if they did not return his boot this very minute, they'd best call a cop. All of a sudden the principal rushed out, she started to tell me that my tiny built son was beating up "7" girls and their parents demanded he be expelled. I refused to talk with her, told her i would take it up with the school board, and she sent for his boots, but no one could find them, then a teacher who was on yard duty said he did not have any footwear on a recess and i told her she was a pure idiot and to call a cop now. The principal then called one of the girls, came back to me and the yard duty teacher and said the girls had ganged up on him at recess took his boots off him and thrown them into some garden at the back of the school yard, the principal was almost in tears as she had scewed up bigtime, my son had tried to get help from the yard duty teacher, she ignored him, but listened to the girls. I told them that they could return the boots at the hearing i was going to set up with the board of education. I also told them, that i refused to use my boys ohip card, that i would see to it that those two personally pay for those bills and that i wanted everyone of those mother at this meeting. Both lost their jobs and paid for several months of hospital bills, due to constant asthma attacks, which he still suffers. Before this incident he never had asthma.

I watched another case where a neighbour woman was bent down looking at her vans back wheel as her husband had driven it home drunk the night before and she was angry with the damage to the back wheel, she was kneeling, lost her balance and fell a few inches on her butt, her husband was bent over looking as well. Another neighbour woman with a grudge against them, who was a few doors away on the other side of the van called the cops and reported he hit his wife. The cops showed up and without warning tackled the guy, cuffed him, his wife, myself and 9 other ppl, tried to tell the cops it never happened we had witnessed the whole incident. But the cops would not listen to us. He was let out on bail, forced to move out of the home for the safety of his wife and kids, till 6 months later when he got to trial, he was not even allowed to visit until after his court appearance.

What ppl do not realize is that Policing, the courts and the law are now "Big Business", they are there for the money, not just to up hold the law. At one time cops became so because it was a job they cared about, but now any insider will tell you it is about 20 yrs, make it as easy as possible and retire on a nice pension and take other work if your bored. It has little to do with wanting or likeing the job.

It has gotten out of control all a woman has to do is accuse and that alone becomes fact, "guilty until proven innocent" has been a long standing change in the justice system.

It had little to do with the 1970's that was about equality, fem groups had little to do with it, that was not a
anonymous
2008-12-22 21:51:31 UTC
Women are fine with equality, as long as it doesn't work both ways. You are right, you never hear the women's groups trying to stop their women from being abusive.



How about in the case of divorce. Women are all equal until they have the chance to cry in court and get alimoney! They are so phoney!!!
Peace and Love
2008-12-22 21:53:04 UTC
because girls have feelings you can't just walk up to a girl and slap her because she will start crying or call the police boys they just get over it and move on or it will cause a problem.
Anonymous A
2008-12-22 21:51:13 UTC
i havent read your added q b4



BECAUSE IT REALLY HURTS US

we have alot more emotions and it hurts more trust

unless ur a puff 4 a bloke
anonymous
2008-12-22 21:52:13 UTC
Some women really deserve to be beaten up!!!
ccbby.
2008-12-22 21:50:25 UTC
go to hell.


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