Sister in law!!! Pain in ass!?

Question

Sister in law upsets me, partner does nothing!?
I've been with my partner for nearly 3 years
He is the youngest by almost 10 years and the only boy, he has three older sisters and his mother, his father is dead, died before I meet him.
Since I first meet his sisters I've heard nothing but them bitching and always arguing with each other including his mother.
my partner just try's to keep the peace with them all, but in the last year his sister offered me a job and I took it with her company.
She started what felt like " taking advantage of me" and only being nice when she wanted to be, including being very judgmental and hypocritical at times, so I recently decided to quit the job working for her as I was sick of feeling like ****, so I got a new job as a cleaner just till I find something else ( not much work where I am at the moment).
today she rings me after 3 weeks since i left her company, with what felt to me like "just ringing for gossip on me" and asks how my job hunting is going, I told her I have found a job as a cleaner for now , and she responded by laughing and saying "really"? Ha ha and laughing like I'm a loser.
I felt like **** and was very upset, she always upsets me but I am a very sensitive person so I try not to get into and argument and say nothing and let it go, but I'm getting sick of being treated like this, the other sisters don't even talk to us anyway (heads up their ass) what annoys me is my partner never says or does anything, he just lets them say what they want and knows it upsets me, I feel I'm trying to be nice to his sister for his sake but all I get is this kind of treatment? I have told him before that he is being a coward and needs to start sticking up for me, but they have a way of doing it when he is not around, so he feels like he can never say anything if he is not there, what am I meant to do,I wish I could just stay away from them but when I refuse to go to a family functions my partner get annoyed and upset with me!! What am I suppose to do, I'm thinking of leaving this relationship because of this!
Sometimes I think this is my fault cause I'm just sensitive, other time I think it's his fault for not saying something without me having to tell him he needs to stand by me, he tells me he is always on my side, but his actions don't support that!

Answer 1

You're not being sensitive at all. Try and get him to witness some of the nasty comments she makes to you so he can see it with his own eyes. Otherwise give him the ultimate that if he doesn't start sticking up for you and stop being a coward - you'll leave him. 3 years is a long time together and a long time to be putting up being treated that way. Stand your ground and stop going to family gatherings if he still refuses to defend you. I know you said you don't like confrontation and I'm the same but if it gets to the point when you're wanting to leave your partner because of her, maybe confront her about the situation and how you feel? She might not realize just how nasty shes being or how bad shes affecting you. Hope it works out for you.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

What annoys people the most is being ignored.

Do that. Ignore her. Ignore as if a dogs barking n uve nothing to do abt it. Pay no heed. I bet she'd be really annoyed by that but ignore that too.

Its not too good for health to pack up sooo much resentment. U have ur job hunting.. ur partner and ure own life. U can't let ur brain be occupied with some silly **** piece who annoys u. Just ignore her. There are many fools in this world.. paying attention n trying to change them will only make u madder.

Answer 4

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Sister in law!!! Pain in ass!?

Sister in law upsets me, partner does nothing!?

I've been with my partner for nearly 3 years

He is the youngest by almost 10 years and the only boy, he has three older sisters and his mother, his father is dead, died before I meet him.

Since I first meet his sisters I've heard nothing...

Answer 5

leave your partner out of it, this is between you and the in-law.



she may just be playing with you, or she may have a grudge, or she can just be an all out b!t(h



first rule of war, "know thy enemy", so figure out why shes doing what shes doing, and what ticks her off (shes obviously found what ticks you off)



dont play by the rules, you have to be sneaky and slither like a snake.



get your right bellicose attitude on, and most importantly: put a stop to it