Is there any way I can get my cousin to forgive me?

Question

I have apologized to him twice from the heart in the past two months (I was too hard on him a couple of months ago about some questionable e-mails he had sent), but he still refuses to communicate. The rest of my cousins on that side have stopped talking to me as well. Family reunion is in five months and I'm not so sure I want to go. Opinions?

Answer 1

You've apologized--twice. Since you've apologized (sincerely), the ball is in his court. Obviously he wants to play this out and be petty and childish about it. He's spread gossip and alienated other people against you. My , my--isn't he a prize! You aren't obligated to apologize any longer. In fact, I would drop the subject totally and ignore him. He enjoys watching you grovel. I hope you kept the questionable e-mails. Just keep them for reference in case they're needed to prove your case. What I would do--and mind you, you're not me and you might not want to do this at all--is I would show up at the reunion like you're planning to have a good time. I would speak to everyone and be friendly like you usually are. Ignore whether they speak or not. You speak anyway and smile. When you get around to speaking to him, if he turns away in a snit, corner him and say, "_____ (his name), it's really a shame that you've chosen to hold a grudge against me because I questioned some suggestive e-mails you sent to me. I should be the one who is offended, but you're the one who sent the e-mails to me and you're now acting childish and petty about the subject. I forgive you for what you did, even though I haven't heard an apology". Then walk away. Hopefully, this will be front of a roomful of people. Don't let him walk around you until you've said what you have to say, and say it loudly enough so others can hear you. You may be fudging a little on the details of what actually happened, but it's close enough to the truth that if you showed the em-mails to others, they could see they were questionable. Then I wouldn't say anything else to anyone. Let him do all of the sputtering and spewing and denials. As far as you're concerned, the subject is dead for good. Go on and have a good time at the rest of the reunion and don't let anyone bring up the subject again.

Answer 2

Well, you're extra wanting being forgiven for the clinginess and apology-junk mail that you just subjected her too later on (that needed to were essentially the most uncomfortable aspect for her). That being mentioned, her reaction used to be that she thinks of you as a pal (versus a weirdo or stalker) so that is a well factor. Just permit it cool over and I'm certain she'll repress it or overlook approximately it for essentially the most aspect. However, it is on no account going to quit being bizarre until you forgive your self and funky down just a little. Saying stuff like 'I HATE WHAT I HAVE DONE' makes it sound such as you raped her and killed her puppy. Let it cross and blame it on being under the influence of alcohol or some thing (who hasn't used that as an excuse?)

Answer 3

If you have sincerely apologized to your cousin for your strong and somewhat judgmental criticism of his emails, you can only wait for him to make the next move ... to forgive you! By the way, were those messages sent to you? or did you disrespect his privacy? If the latter is the case, it may be the reason why it is so much harder to forgive, and you will have to re-earn his trust.



If nothing happens before the family reunion, make sure to attend and publicly apologize there to heal the family hurt.

Answer 4

you've made 2 sincere apologies and it hasn't helped your cause so just ask him what you need to do to make things right. Saying you were sorry should have been enough but some people are to hard headed to accept them.