What does his text message mean?

Question

Hi I broke up with this guy who I was with for 2 years.
I had enough and he was a bit insecure and had a problem with trust. I will always love him but don’t think he will change.
He has been trying to get back with me for over a month now and has promised he will change but I have a new boyfriend now who I like. So what does this message mean that my ex sent me? What would you do?

His text message:

Nat what r u doing?! I hear your with some 27 year old hu doesn’t have a job? Im sorry if your happy and he treats u well but come on! U didn’t even let me show u that ive changed..u just blocked me out so quickly after everything we had? I no were meant to be together and I cant stop trying unless u set me straight and tell me that u just don’t love me in that way anymore. If u don’t say that tho then that means u still have feelings for me in that way even if u don’t think u want to get back together.
I know saying all this wont bring us back together just like that but I just no something sometime will bring us back together bcos we were too close and so strong and I honestly believe that all the issues I had r gone and have grown out of me.. im starting a new job soon which pays at least 30k a year, getting a sick new car and building up loads at the gym and it just doesn’t seem worth doing any of that without u! and u wont even see me for a drink or anything! If u tell me you don’t love me in that way ill stop. But if not im gona keep trying.

Answer 1

His text message seems like he can't loose you and wants you back, like seriously. So, he says things like "30k..newcar..." to impress you. And says negative things about the guy so you won't like him anymore. And he says that if you can say to him that you don't LOVE him anymore, he'll stop bothering you.

And i kept re-reading what you said, "I will always love him but don’t think he will change." The key is: "I will always love him." If you have said, "love'd" with a 'd, then you used to love him. But it's like you're saying that you still have feelings for him too.



Why don't you give him a 2nd chance? I think you should! And if it fails, it fails. Hope this helps!

Answer 2

Well the email means that he is still trying to get together with you but you have not made it clear to him that you have now moved on. Or, he just won't accept that you have moved on. (He is also under the impression that relationships are about material things which I find interesting)



I would email back and tell him what he is asking to be told. Clearly tell him, that "you are over him now". That "you do not love him anymore" and that "there is no chance of you being together again". Maybe he needs to be told not to compare any new relationship you may have with the old one you had with him as this is not fair to do.

Remind him that he told you that if you did say this then he promised to stop bugging you.

Answer 3

I just hope, for his own sake, that he can get his big head through the door of his "sick new car". What a pratt!

If 30k a year, a new car and a few muscles does it for you then go back to him, but don't be surprised if that's all you get from him because he sounds like a jealous fool to me - once he's got you he'll go back to being insecure and having trust issues.

Answer 4

He's telling you what to do to get him out of your life.

So go ahead and tell him you don't love him anymore and that you've moved on. Suggest to him that he do the same. Be gentle and try to deliver the message in a nice way.

But be prepared for him to not accept your rejection like he says he will. You may end up having to be a little forceful. Just try the nice approach first.

Answer 5

I would just move on because he can not change that quick and also he is just having a pity party so you will feel sorry for him and take him back. He seems like a egotistic maniac and he also brags way to much about what he has. Bottom line if you like the guy your with stick with him. Don't go back to this bozo otherwise you will be sorry.

Answer 6

30k really isnt a lot of money these days, so i wouldnt brag about that. You might have to be a little pointed and say it is really none of his business. And why a text message? Text messages are for short messages, not confessions of love.



But im just wary of people you use "no" when they mean "know"

Answer 7

I think his text message states things clearly. He's not over you, and wants you to give him another chance. What you do is up to you. If you are still in love with him and want to give things another go, then you need to tell him. If you are happy with your current situation and want nothing more to do with your ex, then you need to tell him in no uncertain terms that you have moved on and that he needs to do the same. He won't want to hear that, but you need to tell it firmly or else he'll think there is a glimmer of hope and will keep pestering you.



Good luck.

Answer 8

it sounds like he hasn't changed to me, move on he had his chance and now you are with someone else who will treat you better! instead of telling you about his job and gym he should be telling you how much hes changed and wants to prove it to you this is not the way to do it!

stick with your boyfriend if he treats you better don't let your ex ruin it for you!

Answer 9

You can look at this in two ways:



He means exactly what he says,

or

He's just trying to steal you from your current boyfriend for a pride and victory screech, and then he'll just be a bad boyfriend again.

Answer 10

WOW im guessing he is obsessed with you. But like do u still have feeling for him. DO you love him in neway STILL???

If you dont then im guessing you should tell him stright up " Hey I dont like you nemore" ignore his texts, calls nething. Tell him that theres someone out there for u and its not me.



Good Luck

Answer 11

that text message means that he is an obsessed boy that cant deal with the fact that he lost you and he doesnt want to move on... he is probably gonna keep trying and he is gonna try to guilt u back into dating him... dont get sucked back in, move and and he should too

Answer 12

hes not that into you. hes playing the part. hes asking what you want from him so that he knows how to play the game. read between the lines girl. hes not the one interested the most. and definitely he does not want a relationship... though i need some physical behavior to give you a more precise anser. lol so dont take my word for it.

Answer 13

go for a drink with him. see what he is like then decide what you are going to do. take it slowly to start with, don't rush into things.

and it doesnt matter if he is working out at the gym, anyone can do that.

Answer 14

tell him to learn how to spell

Answer 15

ignore him. that's the best thing to do.

Answer 16

Just ask you to turn back to her. oh please!