Serious question, ladies please give your opinion...? Thanks :)?

Question

My ex boyfriend (we broke up about a year ago, were together for 3 but managed to stay friends) always accused me of being a "nympho" and said I wanted to have sex more than any other girl he's ever known. My ex boyfriend from about 4 months ago (we were together for about 10 months) also told me the exact same thing. My boyfriend now thinks I want sex too often as well.

This is a serious question. I am not some 13 year old girl goofing around on here or something okay? I'm a normal, healthy 20 year old woman with what I thought was a normal sex drive, but now I'm not so sure.

I know the sex is great and they are enjoying themselves (from what they tell me and from their physical reactions). So that's not the issue.

I guess, bottom line, my question is, is wanting to have sex every day, more than once a day abnormal? Am I a freak? How often do the rest of you want sex?

Sorry if it's a personal question, I'm just curious.

Answer 1

Well, you sound like a normal girl to me. Have you ever thought that you ex-boyfriends had the problem being since they had low sex drives. Because most men would not mind having a girl that wanting it everyday. So, you are alright, girl.

Answer 2

I don't think that's abnormal, I just think you have a more active sex drive than many people. It's funny how men can seem to want sex all the time, but then they get a girl who wants it a lot and they freak out. Myself, I probably have a pretty average sex drive, a few times a week is good enough for me, but there's so many other factors playing into it that each person is really different. For instance, my husband and I are both working long hours these days, and we also have a three-year-old, so there's a lot of other things that need our attention each day. We try to make time whenever we can, but it can be hard! If you're really concerned, you should talk to your gynecologist about it, but it's probably just your hormones are different or something like that.

Answer 3

No it's not abnormal...it's hormonal. You might want to talk to your doctor about it but it's not serious. However I would advise against getting sexual in a relationship too soon with anyone. Obviously 10 months wasn't long enough to really know your last boyfriend, I would suspect you started being sexual in the relationship early on.

I suggest taking a break from all "serious" relationships that might become sexual. Then when you do become "involved" take it slow get to know the guy "inside and out" before engaging in sex. Don't let your homones to your thinking. One "school of thought" I have advised for my daughter is when you start thinking about having sex with this guy ask yourself if you want them to be a part of your life for the next 18 to 25 years. Because if you get pregnant that is how long they will be tied to you through that child if not longer.

Answer 4

Everyone has a different sex drive. For some people doing it every day is normal, and for others doing it once a week is normal. I wouldn't say that wanting to do it once day was abnormal - but maybe wanting to do it 3x times a day could be viewed as being excessive.

If you are comfortable with it and your bf is too - then there isn't a problem. But, if he thinks you want it too much you might want to take control of your libido and slow down a little bit.

Answer 5

Hey you know what I am the same way but my girlfriend was a freak to but I guess I was a bigger freak when we first met she was all into it but know she cant hang I will be doing my thing but she cant hang especially after her period she get real horny but thats about it that is when I really get her whe have been together with her for about a year and a half and sometimes I think that's the only thing that keeps us together I dont think there is a problem just he cant hang but if you want some company just come over my girl wont mind at all

Answer 6

What did you do when you didn't have a boyfriend? Were you sleeping around with various men everyday, because your sex drive was out of control? If your sex drive is only out of control and that high when you are involved with a man then...



Not to sound mean or anything, but you probably have a lot of issues with your self esteem.



You need to love yourself, and realize that sex is not love.



It's more than likely not about enjoying sex, it sounds like you validate yourself with sex, and that is not good.



Seek counseling, and stop having sex with men thinking you are getting love.



Some women do have high sex drives, and it's only healthy when you are not forcing your high sex drive on somebody who does not. If you are, you are being selfish in the matter, then yes, it is a problem.

Answer 7

You are definitely a freak, but that's not a bad thing. I think your problem is not that your a freak but that your choosing the wrong men. Cause I don't no any brotha who would mind having a girl like you, trust I have a lot of guy friends. You need to learn how to pick the right guy for you, be upfront with them letting them know that you have a high sex drive and if they can hang, then you can be down with them, if not they need to not waste your time.

Answer 8

I don't think its abnormal at all I am the same way. Be warned though that it may not just be a stage or if it is it could last a VERY long time. I've been in this stage for 14 years and I don't see it ending anytime soon and marriage didn't slow me down either for the 8 years I was married.

Answer 9

I guess it varies. You're young and this is new to you so wanting that much I guess is normal. I wouldn't call you a nymph, nymphos can't go w/o it and will do it with anyone just get pleasure. You are at least just having it with a person you are committed too.



I'm sure you'll reach a point in life when you won't want it at all, so have fun and be safe of course.. ;)

Answer 10

I don't think you are a freak. I do think that you have a high sex drive but, there is nothing wrong with that. My ex wanted it every day. My question to you is..How do you react if you don't get it? Are you pouty? Angry? It might have more to do with how you react if you are turned down.

You asked us to tell you how often was enough..I would say for me that 3-4 times a week is right. Everyone has different appetites. You need to find someone who matches your own.

Answer 11

Your 20. You're still very young. I think the younger you are the more sex drive you will have. Im sure there are plenty of guys out there who wouldn't mind helping you with that problem. I just wouldnt' be advertising it like you are right now.So what if you have a healthy sex drive. Be proud of it and don't let anyone tell you different!! You will slow down someday after having a couple of kids!! TRUST ME!!

Answer 12

Gawwd girl...you are making me tired just talking about it...well maybe when I was 20 ..once a day would be alright...but I cannot recall more than a year in my entire life wanting it more than once a day and that would have been when it was something fresh and new and I just needed to get as much as I could cause the feeling was new and great. After that ...it's worked it's way down to about twice a week.

Answer 13

If it was a dude, people would be laughing it up and singing his praises! NO, you are not abnormal. Just keep looking for a man that can keep up with you. I love how men will always ***** and moan and complain about their women not giving them enough, but then when they get a woman who does, they try to make her out to be a nympho. Crazy! You're just a woman who knows what she wants and is touch with her sexuality. Good luck!

Answer 14

Wanting it everyday is normal. Nympho's are people who HAVE to have sex constantly and take lots of risks. Like having sex with strangers, unprotected sex, sex in very public places. And if they dont want to give it to you buy a toy. Those never get tired and never say no.

Answer 15

Fellow nymphos unite!!!! haha just kidding. Honey, loving sex and wanting it all the time is nothing to be ashamed of!! My husband calls me a nympho all the time (not that he's complaining.. lol). If you have a strong sex drive GOOD FOR YOU!!! Not a lot of women do, but those of us who do... Watch out boys!!! Have fun!

Answer 16

i don't think it's really abnormal....i just think you have a very high libido; more so than most women. i'm sure your exes have appreciated that, and you shouldn't take it as an isult, or feel insecure about it. i think guys would be happy to have a girl that wants sex often as opposed to not wanting it enough, which would be a bigger problem. if you think it's seriously getting out of hand (like having to do it ~numerous~ times a day), you may be a sex addict...not to sound silly, but it's true...saw it on discovery health. anyways, if you think that's the case, they have counseling for it, and also medication to control your hormones...hope i helped :)

Answer 17

I dont think so I went throught the same thing when I was 20 now im 25 and its starting to taper off I still want it once a day but not nearly as much I think this is what they call your sexual peak my husband as reached is now and were the exact oppisite now he wants it all the time!

Answer 18

My husband has the high drive in my family. For me, once a week or once every two weeks works for me, but while we were first married, once every other day seemed to work. No, you're not a freak, you just like a LOT of sex.

Answer 19

Well I would say it is normal. When I was that age I did it almost every day and sometimes a couple a day. I don't think it's an issue unless it is the ONLY thing that you think about it and you want it so much that you go with others other then your current b/f.

Answer 20

i don't think theres anything wrong with you, unless you feel a drive every five minutes. guys are different then girls, you can handle it as often as you want but some guys (most actually) just aren't physically capable, they need a cool off period, that doesn't mean theres anything wrong with them either. up side, your boyfriend will always be satisfied, down side, you won't, you'll have to learn how to tone things down a bit anyway you see fit, is okay. another way is to find a boyfriend that can keep up with you :) but that's a little hard to do ;)

Answer 21

How can it be abnormal hun? people have differences, some people have a high sex drive, some people dont. But when you are in a new relationship it is all go with sex, but this usually does calm down, even if it dont tho i dont think there is anything wrong with you.

Answer 22

You are not a freak. You're boyfriends either can't keep up with you or they are telling you you're a nympho because they want you to keep giving them all this sex. Are you enjoying yourself or just acting so they will like you? I wonder.

Answer 23

not a freak my husband wishes we could have sex every day or twice a day. just normal. A nympho is someone who has lots of sex with other people. Ann

Answer 24

90% of all the answers are from women... And most of them think you are normal and they either are wanting Sex daily or would like to have it daily or multi-times daily.. All this says one thing... Most men are complaining about cold hearted women when they evidently are not taking advantage of the opportunities or they are not pushing the right buttons... Keep the humping pumping baby for you have brought all these horney women out of the closet....

Answer 25

I think you are perfectly normal. I am 28 and am the same way. My sex drive is WAY higher than my husband's. After 10 years I have FINALLY gotten him to see things my way. All his friends are envious that he has a woman with a drive like mine. It is who you are girl, don't suppress it!

Answer 26

1 time a day and 1 time a night is normal 2 times a night is fun and 3 times not good if u wanna wake up early

Answer 27

How many times a day??????



Umm im lucky if get it once a week, can i borrow one of your fellas for a few days?????



As far as i know, your sex drive is normal, maybe theyre all just getting old and cant keep up, or jealous of you stamina, youre fine - dont let them get to you.

Answer 28

i would not say you are a freak...everyones sex drive is different.....if your boyfriend says you want it too much maybe you two could compromise and decide what works best for the two of you...maybe everyother day or 4 times a week...you have to communicate with each other...you are dating and one of these guys could be your future husband, so compromise and find what works best...

Answer 29

well when me n my men have sex it's More then once OK we both love sex so i don't have to worrie about **** like this what u need to do is have fun wit it make it fun have lil games to start then get to it. that's what we do it always works for the both of use so give it a try! then email me [e-mail] OK girl!

Answer 30

They are just used to girls that don't ahve an initiave like you do. Guarantee you that your ex's wish they had you back.

You are normal- and like everyone else has said you just have a higher drive than most. Enjoy it- it doesn't last forever.

Answer 31

I think you're normal. I like to have sex at least 5 tmes a day

Answer 32

You are not a freak. Just say thank God you have meet a guy who can go more than once a day because I have yet to meet such a man.

Answer 33

i heard some woman who want sex several times a day is because they feel like they're not loved enuff or they wanna feel beatiful all the time. so they use sex as a substitute for wanted love

Answer 34

I can't believe your boyfriends are complaining most men would be like woo hoo. If they don't want to give it up all the time, get a BOB. Battery operated boyfriend.

Answer 35

some people just have higher sex drives than others. most guys i know would LOVE a girl who wanted sex everyday. however, my bf sounds like yours. his sex drive is lower then most guys. i think thats what is abnormal!!!

Answer 36

I remember that phase well.....My b/fs accused me of that to but they never complained. I think you'll be fine. Now if it starts interfering with your work or friendships so that you can't function on a somewhat "normal" level then I would worry.

Answer 37

No, you're not abnormal, but don't jus' do that w/ all ur boyfriends, and sometimes do little things that get them in the mood so it doesn't seem like it's only you wanting it. And don't throw yourself @ them.

Answer 38

k quick question, r they all mad??? course youre not a freak personally i want it as many times a day as possible but then thats just me lol good job ive got soemone to keep up wi me... anyway point is theres deffo nothin wrong wi you you just need a fella that can keep you happy hope you find one

Answer 39

No you are not a freak. They just can not keep up. It is call being jealous, they bad mouth what they can not do.You will find someone who will be able to keep up with you. I did.

Answer 40

Your totally normal you just need to find the right partner

Answer 41

It seems normal to me if you were older in your 30's. But you are still young. you might want to talk to your doctor about it.

Answer 42

I used to enjoy sex too. Then I got married and had kids. That will kill it all.

Answer 43

2 points thanx

Answer 44

I'm not sure what's "normal" but I know I would never be able to maintain at that pace! ;o)

Answer 45

ur not a freak all people go through that stage sometime in there life

Answer 46

no your not a freak. just like it everyday. so what. get it when you can cause one day you will be married and doing it on his schedule.

Answer 47

Good question!Dont worry,mans are strange,sometimes,you are fine

Answer 48

Uhh! And where did you say you are?



Twice a day is not to much.

Answer 49

YOU ARE COMPLETELY NORMAL. ESPECIALLY WHEN I WAS PREGNANT, I COULDNT LOOK AT MY HUSBAND WITHOUT WANTING HIM SO BAD IT FREAKIN HURT. YOUR NORMAL AND HEALTHY AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WANTING TO GET YOUR GROOVE ON AS MANY TIMES AS YOU WANT!!!!!!!!!!! you go girl!!!

Answer 50

sounds like you need two boyfreinds lol. really i wouldnt worry about it. tell then to do what they are told

Answer 51

nope

Answer 52

i don knowwwwwww....