Very odd behaviour of my fiancee?

Question

My fiancee is displayning a very odd behaviour. I love her a lot but I just dont know how to deal with it. At one moment she is absolutely fine and the very next minut e she has extremly agitated behaviour. During her moments of anger she wants me to pack up and leave an during her goood moments she gives me just the opposite message. Last time during her anger she got physically violent towards me. I want to really work out my relationship with her. Can some one tll me what is this type of behaviour? Just as a background, I did boother her by some lies and however for the past few months, I swore not to lie again and kept my end of the bargain and am doing that.

Answer 1

PMT? Ask her if her periods are due. I would recommend Essential Fatty Acids - ie Primrose Oil etc.



Also, she may still resent you for lying - maybe a lack of trust?



Just ask her.



Physical violence is simply not on!

Answer 2

Just because two kids in the class are going through some kind of a phase doesn't mean there is something "going on" necessarily. If the parents have concerns about their children's behaviour, they should be addressing it with the school. Not because the school is at fault, but to determine if the same behaviour is displayed at school, if anything has been happening at school that could be leading to the behaviour, if their child is adjusting well socially, getting along with other children, etc. EDIT - So what IS going on?? EDIT - If the principal has actually approached you and informed you that something is going on but he cant tell you what, and 1/3 of the class is having behavioural problems at home, then I would seriously consider finding a new school

Answer 3

During her "moments of anger" when she wants you to pack it up and get out,she may (unconsciously) be testing you.Seeing how far she can push you.She also may feel that before she marries you,are you going to stay together,no matter what?On the other hand violence is violence.I'd be concerned about that.Is she trying to provoke you into hitting her back? Even if you're not that kind of guy,everyone has their limits.she may be looking for yours....Now to be fair to her,she may have a medical condition.psychological or physical.If it's psychological,it could be a lot of things including Bipolar disease or schizophrenia.If it's physical,it could be somthing as simple as hormones.Her Dr. could find out if that's her problem by doing a blood test to check her hormone levels. But buyer beware!Fits of rage isn't something you should ignore.They could get worse than just smacking you.Also,what's the laws in your state,you know,in case you reach your limit.Oh! one more thing.Why did you lie? Were you trying to keep her from going off? Good luck with that.

Answer 4

well, she could be bi-polar...or pregnant. lol Women are sometimes nuts when they're pregnant.



Then again, you did lie to her, so maybe she's having a hard time getting over that. Just because you said you're sorry and that you won't do it again, doesn't mean a thing to her. You've broken that trust...it's not something that's easily repaired.



Get her to a doctor, make sure she doesn't have a medical condition. If that turns out not to be the case, get yourselves into therapy.



Good Luck :)

Answer 5

Being physically violent towards you is not good. I do not care that you lied to her, that is no excuse for her behavior. She has issues and I would not get married to anyone like that. She is not going to change and you need to get out before she does something really bad to you and she ends up calling the police and puts you in jail for nothing (i've seen it happen).

Answer 6

It sounds like she's not sure she wants to commit right now. Try telling her that you've admitted what you did wrong and that there's no pressure by you for her to marry you until she can resolve her feelings. Be supportive even if she lashes out at you. If she sees how gentle you are to her reproaches then maybe she'll start softening towards you and things can go forward.

Answer 7

Google Borderline Personality Disorder. I have a friend with this problem and it is quite the test of patience.

Also you are not married yet, you really need to think that yes you love her, but most likely you will live with this kind of situation throughout your marriage. Do you really want to raise a child in that kind of home?

It is not easy to leave a person you love, but when it comes to self preservation you really need to consider yourself first.

Answer 8

Personal experiance.... i use to be just like her... and sometimes I still am... I found out my emotions were going crazy for two reasons... 1. i found out that my behavior is common of those who are bi-polar.... 2. i found out i was pregnant..... but in ur case i think she may be bi-polar or going through a hormone change. try going to a counciler.... it might help.

Answer 9

my girlfriend has the same behaviors except drinking as well. I got her to see a doctor which put her on anti- depressents and now she is much better. she is the person I fell in love with.

Answer 10

it sounds like she still resents what you did (lying). she's probably affected by it everytime she's reminded of it. this is not only hurting you but also herself.. have you spoken to her about it? if you want to make things work, i think you should consider going for counselling together to iron out the existing issues.. imo, leaving should be your last option.. if you love her, i'm sure you want to work things out and you want to see happy days with her again isn't it? talk to her and tell her you really want things to work out and see what she says.. good luck

Answer 11

I am not so sure why she is acting like this. But maybe you should comfort her more and show how trustworthy you can be. Show you care and you can handle this. If it gets really bad ask her if there is anything you can help her with.

Answer 12

Tell her you cant take it anymore and one day you will be gone. If she keep actin a fool then just leave.

You dont need people hitting on you.

Answer 13

maybe its menopause... but if u break ur woman's trust once its hard for her to trust u without thinkin about u lyin to her... so u may hav kept ur end but its hard for her to keep hers... u f-ucked up buddy...

Answer 14

Get used to it......it's only the beginning

Answer 15

maybe she's getting cold feet now,,,you probably really hurt her and she doesn't trust you anymore

Answer 16

well if you lied before she's probably don't have that much trust in you... either that or she's bipolar

Answer 17

Move on. hate to say it.... but it's in your best interest.