Question:
Should I leave her ? Any idea plz...?
2010-01-21 06:35:07 UTC
H all, last year, I am married to a girl. This was an arranged marriage. We 2 both r in S/W development feld working n Hyderabad. After 3 months, I discovered that she has a boyfriend. Her relation was with him for last 4 yrs. Upon asking about the status of her relation with bf, she is answering that she has left this relationship b4 our marrage(b4 2 years of our marriage). Upon asking her in detail abt the relationship with her bf n detail, she is fearing to answer abt. Many times she is avoiding my questions against that relation. Most Unfortunately, her bf is no-one but my "Shadu"(my wife's younger sister's husband). Now I am standing in 4-square. What should I do? It is unbearable for me when i am thinking abt my wife's bf. At that time, I am hating her bf, my wife n myself too. I told my wife, not to talk with her bf. She is answering ok, but behind the scene, she is talking with her bf. Upon quering, she is answering no, but upon God's Promise, she is denying to answer. What should i feel? This is compelling to think negative. Her answers abt her bf relationship says, also symptoms says she had even physical intimacy/physical relationship b4 with her bf, bcoz she is not answering upon God's promise. To me my logic, I have two ways --{ 1) my wife will not talk to her bf anymore and we wil cut all the relationship with my "shadu". 2) I will leave her . }. What should I do ? Any otherway, if any plz ?
Seven answers:
Sunflower
2010-01-21 09:42:54 UTC
Do you know which is the most important thing in a marriage? Trust for each other. How did you know about your wife's ex-bf and that he's your shaadu? Your wife told you,right? and why did she tell you? Coz she trusted you and what did you give her in return? Tons and tons of suspicion regarding her character.You look for symptoms and think she has slept with him.You even tried to make her swear in front of god? ha..ha.. Who do you think you are? Lord Ram who Makes his wife perform agnipariksha to prove she is pure and untainted? Get a reality check done,buddy.This is the 21st century. Do you realise you are spoiling four lives in the process? That of your wife's,your sis-in-law's,her husband's and your own.How can you expect your wife to cut off all relations with her sis just bcoz her husband was once your wife's boyfriend? You need a psychatrist. If you can't learn to trust your wife,then please leave her and go away.She seems to have suffered enough.
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LALIT
2010-01-21 08:08:27 UTC
forget about her past. Try to adjust her in ur life. Otherwise it will be painful for both of u.
miokazhelpline
2010-01-21 07:08:51 UTC
you both will never be happy staying 2gthr coz thr's no trust between u guyz.... cmon.. u deserve someone who is faithful to love you. your wife is scared to tell u the truth tht she loves her bf... maybe due to family pressure or she doent wanna hurt you. its best to leave her and find someone who loves you the most.........



its better for both of you to end this relation be free....
saj
2010-01-21 06:51:32 UTC
apply newton third law



ha ha ha what?.... i hope u got



don't take it seriously
Robert E
2010-01-21 06:40:22 UTC
Anytime you ask "should I leave her," you probably should.
highlightme!
2010-01-21 06:39:15 UTC
I would leave her.


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