asking for ur help again..abuse me if u want..?

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..First look at the answers above which people have given.
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Basically ur concept is, Girl is good. She was a good honest friend. But the guy is mad, obsessed. He not only doesnt love her but also doesnt know 1 word abt frenship. He deserves to be dumped like this.
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Now people th REAL story is this.
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''A girl is happily about to marry. Her guy is exactly the man of her she could ever want. Her marriage date is fixed and she is thrilled. HER LONG STANDING BEST FRIEND OF 4 YEARS, felt sad, coz he loved her secretly. he said he loved her 1 month b4 the arranged marriage. She said she loved him, but only as a friend. She insisted 4 frenship. He agreed intitally, but had to tell her after 3 days its not possible that way as his feelings also stayed, and he may end up saying all he has tomorrow after she gets married. That will make her suffer. So, he said to end frenship. She didnt agree.
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So, he said ok, frenship stays but no contacts for time being, untill he gets over his feelings. When he gets over his feelings, he wud start talking to her again. Frenship, meanwhile will always stay in the minds. She again rejected. when asked why? She didnt tell.
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Later on she invited him to her wedding. He congratulated her but said he wont be able to go not coz of jealousy, but coz of the pain. Even then she was not willing to give him the time to recover
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Thats how she got married.
Now 1 month gone. He asks her, 'hi. How r u? How have u been?'. She doesnt respond. He calls her, she doesnt pick up the fone. She comes online in FB, talks to all her buddies there, but never responds to his chats.
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Now tell people, whats ur views?
She wants her friend to stay and simultaneously avoid him at the same time?
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Is she sadistic?

(I dont need ideas telling me to move on. I am old enough to know that. I need something different, an idea to go into the mind of the girl and know whats in her head. U will help me here)
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(I ASK UR PARDON IF U HAVE ALREADY ANSWERED. MODERATORS AND FELLOW USERS, PLZ BEAR)

Answer 1

Did she marry because she could not have you? Did she marry because she was in love? Did she marry because she wasn't happy? I do believe that in making a life changing decision for both people and families, she married because she loves that person.



I'm not entirely sure about the situation, but what caused you two to become friends anyway...not just beauty? Because if that were so, you'd probably befriend every and any pretty girl you see. So there must be more...she is kind-hearted? She befriended you in a time when you felt alone? What is it?



At any rate, the one reason you two became friends should be the reason you two remain friends. The true definition of friendship is defined by the your perspective. To me, friendship is sharing me with them...I laugh, they laugh. I cry, they cry. We are just genuinely great. Even, if I deeply cared for the person, the care once was because of the reason I liked them...feelings grow, but they still have foundation...if the foundation was, you wanted to date her the moment you saw her, then you never were friends. You were in pursuit of a girl you liked.



How ever long this lasted, it has caused you great pain and her as well...if the foundation was not based on loving one another as people, then of course the situation will become or remain complicated. You don't yet like her as a being...but as a woman. She must be an extraordinary woman to you and for years you believed that...but what about as a being in general? You have yet to learn about her as a being rather than just a woman. It's as though the boss hires a male rather than the female based on sexist bias rather than for her dedication and experience in that career.

Yeah, women are limited in society because we are a male's help meet, but atleast know her as a being as well as a woman.

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