Do men change after becoming fathers?

Question

I have been married for the past 3 years. Although me n my husband do love each other, we have quarrels which are emotionally draining.But things r better now den they were initially , we both have been wrking on our differences.But now im kinda tired of fights.Is marriage such a hard work? When i see other happy couples, i feel so miserable and pitty myself.I have no kids and have been thinking of going family way now. I am hoping that my husband will improve once he becomes a father.

Nature of my husband : Acts childish, wants my attention , bit of controlling, possessive. I feel like i have been putting too much efforts in my marriage .My husband acts like a small baby most of the times , he is otherwise quite smart when it comes to career and finances.he is 37 years and im 29.I m tired of TEACHING him about relationships.I wish he cud do something without having the need for me to tell him and acts matured.
He yells at me when he gets angry ,becomes aggressive.A problem has to be tackled in a systematic way, but he prefers to yell at me, taunt and hurt me with his talks which obviously offends me.i mostly dont argue with him, but soometimes i cant take it.he has another habit of giving me silent treatment for days together which is even more frustrating.

Im diagnosed with PCOS for which im undergoing treatment . i m told by the doc to remain stress free .but due to our fights,my problem aggravates. I have told my husband not to fight with me at least over trivial matter or to avoid my minor flaws ( i too avoid his minor flaws , since if i feel life is too short to sulk over small things which cud be avoided ).But i feel like he puts me under radar and awaits for a wrong move from my side n den he makes an issue out of the whole thing and accuses me of not loving him enuf.

I m having hopes that he will change after he becomes a father. Do men change / become better after becoming fathers ?? Or am i hopelessly dreaming ?

Answer 1

my husband (well then boyfriend) changed from going partying with friends to being a stay home at night dad when my daughter was born. Some men do change and others they still go back to their wicked ways. I'm glad my hubby changed because it wouldn't have been good for my baby and I. I didn't want to stand by a man that was just out partying til 3 or 4 in the morning and coming home and being lazy and letting me take care of the baby on my own. I hope your husband changes not for himself but for you and for his unborn baby because its not good if they don't change and take on some responsibility. Good Luck!

Answer 2

No.



A child will not solve your problems.



The stress of raising a child will probably make your husband worse. And you'd be bringing a child into a very bad environment. If he mistreats you, then he's going to mistreat the child.



"remain stress free" - And the way your going to stay stress free is by having a baby. Really. Are you serious?



Having a child is the most stressful thing you can do.



Pregnancy. Nine months of torture. Your husband doesn't help now, and he's not going to help when your pregnant. So you'll have to face this alone. Basically, you'll be doing everything while your under a big handy cap. Your emotions will be out of control, which will anger your husband.



After having the child, you will be completely exhausted. Maybe your husband will help out for a few days, but that's about it.



So your exhausted, but now you have an added responsibility. I have a friend who had a child, and for the first year she was completely sleep deprived.



The added stress will make your marriage worse. More fights.



If you think a baby is tough, it only gets worse as the child gets older.



The stress will build and build till something explodes.



Having a child will not solve any of your problems.

Answer 3

Ask him when through all these things does he really mean to hurt you. I don't think so. When the kids come the attention will go to the kids, and you will have less couple time. You need to sort things out, I don't think you husband is out to get you. Talk to him with sincerity, honesty and love. Try to let him know what you want him to say, he might just be clueless.

Answer 4

Always Romance is the pleasurable feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love .

In the context of romantic love relationships, romance usually implies an expression of one's love, or one's deep emotional desires to connect with another person.

Historically, the term "romance" originates with the medieval ideal of chivalry as set out in its Romance literature.

Answer 5

Sorry hun you are hopelessly dreaming unless your hubby wants to change! A child will add to the stress

Answer 6

Ithink your husband lacks self confident.focus on improvement.man may change after becoming father due to attention towards newly born kid.

Answer 7

I read ur other question and u sound like a dirty little girl thats likes to screw. email me and put in the subj. line cowboy so I know its u. Im frm florida also, maby we can have a little fun !

Answer 8

No they don't change