what am i supposed to do?

Question

my boyfriend decided he wants to move to texas with his brother to get on his feet and everything.... we live in missouri now.... i still have to finish high school and i think im pregnant on top of that.... i know its best if he went and he said after i get done with school and everything he will come back and get me and we'll start our life but he's talkin about being gone until next summer and wants me to wait for him... i love him sooo much but if i am pregnant i dont want to have to go through all this on my own.... but he's determined to go... he said it will be better for us in the end... i just dont know if i can handle it... whats some advise that could make the situation better.. please no rude comments either im already under enough stress.....thanks

Answer 1

Your boyfriend is being SO SELFISH it's not even funny!



If you are pregnant DEFINITELY tell him and if his determination to go to Texas with his brother is still the only thing on his mind then he obviously doesn't care about your feelings because pregnancy changes EVERYTHING in a relationship or so one would think.



Also if you are pregnant how is he going to support you while he's in Texas? He can't it doesn't matter what he promises you because of the distance. I don't like the idea did you know that you could easily move with him and finish out your last year down in Texas? YES you can do this it's not hard at all because you just need to register to the location where your boyfriend intends to reside. You would have to become an emancipated minor so that you are your own legal guardian. If this is not the case then it is up to your boyfriend to take care of you while you finish out your last year in Texas. I can't believe that he never considered this angle in his "BIG" plan to get on "HIS" feet. Like I said before he didn't even include you other than to "WAIT". What happens if he never comes back to get you? Sadly you would be SOL especially if you are pregnant to his child.



In this case if you are pregnant and he shows not morality to caring and says anything demeaning, hurtful, and says anything similar to "It's a good thing I'm moving to Texas then huh?" or "I don't care I'm still moving to Texas" or "How can I move to Texas now thanks this is all your fault" then you need to dump him ASAP even if he comes close to sounding like ANY of those examples.



If he is so focused to move you can't stop him, just like you can't stop him from finding someone new while he's down there for the next school year. Also if you are pregnant and he still moves THREATEN that you will pursue child support on his behalf. You have to keep in mind that the economy is really bad and it's not your parents responsibility to help you out, though if you can get it that would be awesome! But if he doesn't want to be physically there then his wallet will be and I STRONGLY URGE you to pursue child support if he is so willing to ditch you IF AND ONLY IF you are pregnant.



Mainly hold your breath, say a lot of prayers, and hope for the best. Try to stay as optimistic as possible for your sanity. Also make sure that you test yourself to see if you truly are pregnant because this is an urgent matter that needs to be resolved ASAP, and make sure you tell your boyfriend that you are sure that you are pregnant. In complete honesty you have to tell him that you are sure that you are pregnant since it's his right to know.



I wish you the best as you will need it!

Answer 2

i know being away from your boyfriend is going to be really rough especially at a time like this but it would be better if he went to texas. if he goes now and has the opportunity to get a great job and start a life then it would be better for you and the baby. this way once you graduate and your baby is born you can leave your parents house who will prob be down your throat all the time and have a good place to stay and he will have money to support you guys. so it will be tough with out him but your friends will be their for you and i don't know your parents maybe they will be their for you. you can always talk to him on the fun and have the security of knowing you and your baby will be a family and have a good place to go after high school. oh and if your not pregers you and your bf will have a place in texas no parents ready to go wild. if you get lonely I'm sure my e-mail is on her some were hit me up sometime. good luck

Answer 3

Hi,



I think you should find out if your pregnant or not before you make your next move. If you are, you could probably use his help a little closer to home. If you're not, let him go, and if he comes back, you'll know he's yours.

Do good in school, go to college and make your own money. It makes relationships so much easier when you're not always worried about cash. I wish you the best of luck. Hope it all works out for you.

Answer 4

Okay, here is the deal and your probably not going to like my answer but keep in mind I'm trying to give you an honest answer. First and foremost he is not a man in my opinion! What kind of a guy will get a woman pregnant and then not want to be there by her side during the pregnancy...ANSWER: Dirt bag in my opinion....Texas can wait you are carrying his child for God's sake! Second....Gone for a year? Yeah right buddy! And in another state? You got to be kidding! Chances are that while he is in Texas WITHOUT you he will be trying to have sex with other women and just act like he is so into you and faithfull while on the phone or if you come out for a visit and go right back to banging another girl once you are gone....Makes me sick! Trust me on this! If he wants to be with you then he stays...Tell it to him like that! Texas can wait!

Answer 5

you should just let him go and see how things work out. right now your still young and things might not work out. i think if you spend some time apart and if nothing changes in your relationship with him then you two are meant to be together. separated hearts make the hearts stronger. even tho your asking for advice and your going to get a lot of different responses on what to do and how to handle the situation...you still need to stick with your gut feeling about everything and do what you think is right and take other people's advice into consideration but at the same time don't let their opinions influence your decision. just stick with your gut and do what you think is right and what you think needs to be done. i think everything is going to work out for you and everything will be fine. i hope i could help...good luck with everything :)

Answer 6

First of all,

you should tell him,

about how you may think that you are pregnant,

then just discuss with him,

if he thinks that you need a break,

then most likely you do,

make high school your priority,

and hope for the best

Answer 7

Maybe start talking to your family first then I would think being together would be best for the baby but that's for you to decide, Good Luck!

Answer 8

Step 1: Tell him you are pregnant.

Step 2: Tell him you need "the father" their every step of the way.

-Don't let him go. I fyou are preg. he is running away from responsibilities. HE NEEDS TO BE THERE. HE CAN WAIT A DAM YEAR!-Put your foot down if you are going to be a mom.

best of luck.

Answer 9

does your boyfriend know that you think you are pregnant? would not be fair to him if he did not get a pregnancy test and go from there talk with you parents too good luck

Answer 10

well if he is determent then there really is nothing that you can do an besides if you go with him an register in a another school where he is going or just talk to his brother an tell him to help you

Answer 11

well first relax than just call him when you want, make a schedule(sorry don't know how to spell)do things slowly not too slow then you think only days has past,also go out with your friends

Answer 12

Talk to your boyfriend that too much is happening too fast, if he doesnt understand how you feel he shouldnt be the one leading your life if so, thats what it sounds like.

Answer 13

Your boyfriend is a typical ***. Dump him and slap him with child support. Hate to ask you to be a typical female, but in this case it is well deserved.

Answer 14

well talk to him and tell him that you think you are prego and hope for the best...if he loved you he would stay...

Answer 15

get an abortion.