Question:
Am I a slut / bad influence ? Advice on how to get rid of a bad reputation?
anonymous
2014-03-16 15:39:57 UTC
I'm only 14 years old and in 8th grade. I admit that I made a very big mistake by getting involved with this guy. There was a new boy to my school and I found him really cute! He got kicked out of his old school for smoking weed. My bestfriend started dating him and then broke up with him because he flirted with me while they were dating. He started dating me and she got mad and was a ***** so we stopped being friends. Everyone was suprised I was dating him because he is considered a player and a "bad influence" and some people thought I was a prude compared to him. Well a lot of stuff happened this year after I started dating him. I'm a complete different person then I was last year. Ive lost so many friends and now am considered a bad influence. Parents of kids at my school won't let there kids hangout with me. Kids at school call me the "school slut"..I feel like a whore for all of this and dating this boy changed me into a different person that I would of never became before. This is everything I've done this year that I've never done before.. I've sended nudes, got fingered , madeout , dirty texted, dirty talked on the phone and in person , got my boobs touched over the shirt, got hickeys , got my bare *** rubbed by a guy , my boyfriend rubbed my pussy under the lunch table at school and put my hand on his dick, almost smoked weed, got in a fight at school , got sent down to the office seven times for fighting or causing a scene, almost got suspended, drank alcohol , went to a party and got drunk, almost had sex in the woods but people were watching , got 2 D's on my report card , I started a fight with my stepdad and got the cops called over and had to go to court , I became depressed and started cutting myself ,my boyfriend called me "his dirty *****"and "his slut".... etc..me and my boyfriend broke up after 3 months of dating and now I actually have no one. I use to have a lot of friends and now everyone says I'm a slut. People only know about my hickey because I wore scarfs for a week and they know about me fighting because they see it. When I was dating my boyfriend he was an idiot and told one of his friends that we send each other nudes and we talk about sex and his friend told everyone ... So there are so many rumors about me....me and my boyfriend also were planning on having sex but we broke up so we never did. I've been called a slut so many times this year and it hurts a lot. Last year I wasn't anything like how I am now. I got honor roll and I had tons of friends , I had boyfriends but we never went far at all. Now I have guys all over me wanting sex, I'm trying to get rid of my bad reputation because I lost a lot of friends from it. I don't want to be called a slut and it's making me really depressed from hearing so many people say things about me. I know the answers I'm going to get from asking this question will be bad but can someone please help me and not tell me that I'm a bad person. I realized I made a lot of mistakes , I just need to hear from someone that I'm not a horrible person like everyone acts like I am from doing these things and I need advice on how to get my good reputation back . It just hurts so much from all of the things people are saying to me , I normally would try to fight them but I don't want to make things worst, I cut because of all of this, I have a lot of scars and people are starting to notice and say I'm doing it for attention..please help me :/
Four answers:
Dian
2014-03-16 15:52:09 UTC
U r not horrible and talk to your mother !
?
2014-03-16 23:21:33 UTC
Well, these people would do better worrying about themselves than about what you're doing! BUT, there is hope for you. True, you made mistakes, just like everyone else, but you can fix all of this. You need to STOP hurting yourself, apologize to your mom and step dad and get those grades up. Once you scholastically improve, your attitude AND the attitudes of others will change and you'll be welcomed back into your former circle. On another note, ask your teachers HOW and WHAT they require from you in order to help make this a smooth transition. When you show you are turning over a new leaf, you'll get credit for a good attitude, caring, maturing and everything will get better from there. Good luck
Farih
2014-03-16 22:49:38 UTC
You're not a bad person, you just made some bad decisions. Try to get a therapist or talk to your school counselor and try talking to your old friends and tell them that you've changed and need them. If they were really your friends they'll come back to you, okay. So don't feel bad and don't regret something you once wanted. Learn from the mistakes and keep going.
anonymous
2014-03-16 23:34:13 UTC
it will take time. But you can rebuild your reputation. You made a few mistakes. Your trusted someone you thought cared about you but you only knew him for a little while. Next time don't be so quick to trust someone. Especially not with evidence like nude pictures and texting.


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