I need advice, please?

Question

Okay, I really need advice or tips or whatever, I have a LOT on my mind and I need to tell someone, I don't want to ask my mother to take me to a therapist or something because she's be bugging me about what it is I would like to talk about

Okay, I was born in 1997, I'm 14 almost 15, going on what, 30, My parent's got divorced not long after I was born, he was an asshole, still is, I cheated on my mom, went to strip clubs, and on occasions hit her. So I've grown up with my mom and it's been tough, she's a single mom with nobody, we've never had help at all, so I've had to grow up quickly, I've been trying to get a job to help with everything, my mom has R/A and Lupus, she's 52, I need money to be able to pay for college and a car to get around and we're not exactly rich but we're not exactly poor either. I rarely see my father, every time I do he always has a new girlfriend or wife or WHATEVER, just at my grandmother's funeral where I had to fly to Minnesota, while I was sitting there with my uncle and aunt, who actually care, (this is his side of the family) he walked up and said "Hey buddy, after this I would like you to meet my new wife" It pissed me off MAJOR that he brought her and is daughter in laws... I hate him with every fiber of my being.
I love my mother to bits but sometimes I just, well, there aren't really words... Sometimes she gets depressed and she starts talking to me about it all the time, which gets me all depressed. Sometimes when I don't listen or do things right she gets mad at me, I mean mad, she'll yell at me for it and rarely but on ocassion it'll just make me break down and cry. Rarely when this happens it'll make her yell at me more. It's really rare this happens but sometimes she'll say how pathetic I look... Don't get me wrong I LOVE her. After she's done yelling at me she'll apologize for how she acted and I always forgive her...
It sounds like this can't get much more depressing or traumatic but it does... it does...
Now, just a couple years ago, I um, I was online, DON'T JUDGE, I was looking at porn and whatever, I was experimenting, so I um thought I might be gay... and I hated myself for it. I refused to come to terms and admit it to myself until recently, so after a while I realized I like girls too, so I'm bi and I've admitted it to myself 100% I don't know if I should tell my mom or what. I know this is NOT a phase, my mom doesn't really have a position on the subject, she doesn't care about the whole thing I know what she'd do if I came out, at leas I think I do. she'll avoid me for a while then she'll talk to me and say she accepts it and she loves me no matter what, she'll patronize me a bit, but she wouldn't mean to do it on purpose. I've considered coming out but I'm in Texas, TEXAS!!!! Do you have any idea how much I'd get harassed, or perhaps I could even get killed. I don't know what to do, I live in North Texas, a small-medium sized town north of Dallas...
I feel like I've got the weight of the whole god damn world on my shoulders, I NEED advice, please this took me forever to type and I used up almost all of the characters I'm allowed to.
PLEASE help me!!!

Answer 1

You really don't need to come out to your mother at this point. Sexuality is a continuum, not an either/or. In time, you will sort it out. Maybe you are bi, maybe you are not. Only time will tell. And you may change over time.



Clearly, you hate your father. That is a significant factor in your sexuality.



As much as you don't want to see a therapist, that is exactly what you need to do. You need a safe person with whom you can express your feelings and concerns. Your mother already has a full plate.



You can start by calling a hotline http://suicidehotlines.com/. The calls are confidential and free. They can put you in touch with someone in your area who may be able to help.

Answer 2

Be there for her and take a look at and get her to speak to her mom and dad... By her speakme to them offers her extra choices on wether or now not she desires to maintain it and even adoption she has extra choices now than she is going to later. Her mom and dad will uncover out finally simply make certain it isn't to past due. And be a well pal and take a look at and support/advisor her to make the offerings she desires and now not what any person "desires" her to do in view that she am has to manage it afterward in existence it doesn't matter what she makes a decision... And like the woman earlier than mentioned her mom and dad will develop to the suggestion and sure there is a danger they are going to unfastened it however the will not hurt her or the youngster. So inspire her to make her choices with a view to improvement her eventually.

Answer 3

all i know is that you are NOT GAY, and that you do not hate your father. you are a pretty young lady who just need more attention and love from her family. but my advice is this always remember that even if the whole earth hates and does not care about you, JESUS loves you more than you could ever imagine, he cares about every seconds of every minutes and every minutes of each days. ALWAYS REMEMBER that Jesus is your faithful friend forever. He knows who you are and he is calling you by your name. do not reject him, accept Jesus as your savior and your lord, and you will see a change in your life. he will your best friend, your provider you protector, your heavenly father and he will fill your heart with his everlasting love. say YES TO JESUS, GIVE HIM THE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE, AND ACCEPT HIM AS YOUR SAVIOR AND YOUR LORD.