Can somebody give me some advice? please?

Question

Me and my boyfriend are going through some seriously rough times.. And I feel like i'm about to give up. I know this is long but please read and help me?


Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over 6 months now. We have had sex, we lost our virginity together. We lost it around 4 months. Do not judge me for this, because it was my decision even if it was stupid. Well, last weekend, his parents found his condoms and grounded him. It took him 3 days to tell me that was what happened, when I was freaking out on why he wouldn't come see me(I thought he left or was cheating on me). When I found out, I asked him if I should finally tell my mother we had sex, you know, so punishment would come slightly easier then if his parents went telling her. So I did, and i've been at war with her for the past 4 days. He was grounded a week, and he is part of a farming family, and might I add, a extremely CONTROLLING family. Since school started, 10pm his phone is taken away until after school/football. So He doesn't get it back until 6-6:30pm. Might I add he is almost 17 and I am almost 16. They don't hardly ever let me see him as it is now anymore and before it was every other day, once harvest starts.. his dad told me I won't see him for weeks. And I won't.. it'll be close to two months before i'll get to see him, only time I will is when it rains maybe. I feel like i'm growing away from him, and I love him to death. But now.. i'm starting to fall for another guy. And I love my boyfriend so much but it just feels like..it's ending. His parents are ruining it. So this other guy, let's call him.. "Mike". I think Mike likes me, a lot. He is 18, and starting collage next month. I'm trying to say No and he is one of my best friends. I'm trying to stay away from him in that way, but i'm falling for him badly. I'm getting sick from so much stress. I'm crying every time someone turns there back on me, I don't know what I should do.

I don't know if I should leave my BF or not.. Mike has a GF but he hints he likes me and constantly complains about her.. I love my BF a lot but.. How do I get through 2 months of no seeing him unless it rains? And i'm from Ohio.. and it's EXTREMELY dry this year..

Please Help Me? Advice is really needed..

Answer 1

It's pretty obvious u r BF is going through a lot to pressure too. If u leave him it's gonna destroy him. If u want this to end u gotta be straight. Talk to Mike about u r situation. A counselor, or probably maybe u r own parents, if they understand they will help. U cannot let this continue, it will get messy.

Answer 2

Ummmmmmm.......im no relationship expert, but im thinking that being crazy in love does not = falling for someone else/losing interest. Besides, the other guy your falling for has a gf, even if he complains about her. Doesnt that strike you as a little uncool, making a move on him? Doing that burns his Gf, and SEVERELY burns your bf.



Ultimately, if you really love your bf like you claim, you'll find some way to tough it out, right? don't mean to burn ya, just my opinion

Answer 3

Too much drama, Kiss the llama goodby and get on with your life. His parents don't trust the two of you together not to do something stupid so they are protecting him from himself the best way they know how. You should focus on school and getting along with your family for a while and leave sex, lust and fake romance along.

Answer 4

If you really love your bf, you would be prepared to wait two months to see him. But you obviously don't really love him at all, b/c you've already got your eye on another guy, who BTW, isn't really available b /c he has a gf already. You're obviously too young for a serious relationship.

Answer 5

I been in this situation ,

my boyfriends parents would tell me that im not

gonna see him no more, but like my mom she was pissed off when she found

out but youu know IDGAF it's my life, &' she grounded me and

like so many times iwould sneak out the house, and if she doesn't like it

than she has to deal with it, like if they don't than they can suck a d*ck for all i care.

Answer 6

In this situation, you just need to follow your heart..I know it sounds cliche and maybe not so helpful, but nobody can tell you what to do, or who to chose. You need to figure it out for yourself and do what your gut tells you to do. You can usually trust your gut feeling when it comes to things like this.