Question:
Is this really considered child abuse? And if it is, what can i do??
lonesomemunkey123
2007-01-25 23:21:51 UTC
I'm almost 15 years old, and i live in a semi-troubled family. About 10 years ago, my dad started heavily drinking and would hit my brother, but i was never touched. As time grew on, he would start yelling and slapping me. My grades started to slip, and everytime i came home with a report card with a B+ on it, id get hit. In 3rd grade, my teacher noticed bruises and called CPS. My mom came up with a lie, and they believed it. Now that I'm older, and school work gets harder, im bringing home only Bs and Cs, sometimes lower. Everytime i do, i get yelled at, slapped several times and ignored completely for a week or two. Im called a useless b**** and a dirty w****, and other things like that on almost a daily basis. About 5 times this past year, ive been denied food for about a week, once it was longer. If my mom has a problem with something, she takes it out on me- i end up on the ground used like as a human punching bag. I feel like im treated like dirt. what should i do???
Eleven answers:
2007-01-25 23:32:16 UTC
Yes that most certainly is abuse, emotional and physical, speak to a counselor in school and let the chips fall where they may...dysfunctional family is one thing, abusive is another, don't stay quiet, talk to a counselor and tell them the truth, seriously...

otherwise you are just fooling yourself. Good Luck, I wish you the best.
volvo_1989_1
2007-01-26 00:33:32 UTC
Sweet heart listen to me. The first thing I want you to do is get you and your brother to a safe place. Make sure that neither of your parents can hurt you and then call the police or child protective services. This is going to be an extremely difficult thing to do but you must do it. Beating you over grades especially really good ones with holding food and calling you names like that is ABUSE. You and your brother do not need to live like that. Run away and go straight to the police if you have to but GET OUT! Let me know if I can help you any more than this.
dawndusk2004
2007-01-25 23:53:11 UTC
For me that is a clear case of childabuse. B+ grades are very good. Your parents should love you no matter what kinds of bad grades you do have. Then if they are good parents, they would talk with you about the dropping grades and try to find a constructive solution. With constructive solution I mean, they might help you study by studying with you, or ask a teacher to give you additional lessons or even suggest that you go by yourself or with your parents to a counsellor or a psychologist. Do you have a school-counsellor you can go to? A teacher? Someone else in your family like an aunt or an uncle, or grand-parents? Or even a parent of a friend of yours? It is your parents who make you have these bad grades. And then they are punishing you, who is not at fault, for their abusive behaviour. That is totally not ok. You are in a difficult situation.
2007-01-25 23:38:53 UTC
OMG--Sorry, yeah, I know how you feel. I'm swearing at your dad over and over again right now, my problems feel like nothing.

Yeah, I told my dad I was gay (I know it's a bit different, but I can relate to you a lot, and I'm using my story to tell you how to get them in trouble) in March '06, I'm also 15 , by the way, and ever since he's basically hated me. He tried to beat me up and the police were like, "Oh, well, we'd have to take you away, that's all we could do, blah blah blah." I live in Utah, and they're really into family, so as dirty fag *sarcasm*, I should get taken away. Well, actually, they'd have to take away all of the kids, which my mom wouldn't let, and then tell them to take my dad, but yeah, anyway---

In November, my dad freaked out when he heard me talking about homosexuality to some family members at Thanksgiving dinner. He started ranting to my mom in their bedroom about how awful I am and blah blah. Then a few days later, I was on the computer and he started telling me I can't use any of our computers (I use my mom's work laptop now) and I am useless and should die. I didn't deserve anything and I should drop dead and die if I have any honor. I told my counselor at school, she called child services and they told my dad he can't talk to me at all. (Though my parents are married, so it is awkward at times.)

Anyway, you really need to fight it. If you're mom is lying, then you need to do as much as you can to get Child and Family Services involved. They will get very involved. That whole food thing is illegal nation-wide, the longest you can be not allowed is 2 meals and it has to be in a 24-hour period.

Anyway, if you're really a human punching bag, then show bruises to your school counselor and it should get taken care of within a day or 2.

I hope it all turns out okay, e-mail me at davinci.ian@gmail.com if you ever want to talk. ^_^
desalvo
2016-10-16 07:13:02 UTC
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Sweety
2007-01-25 23:54:32 UTC
Wake up!!! Get help! I went through the same thing when I was your age! I'm45 now, I have my own kids now! I learned from my past not to treat my kids the way I was treated! I lost my temper a few times!! You need someone to help and support you. Go to your councelor at school,thats a start!!! Good luck!
Speed, I Am Speed
2007-01-25 23:31:24 UTC
Are you insane????? Of course that's child abuse!!!!!!!! Report it immediately!!! I can't believe that you could live like that without telling anybody!!!!!!!!!! Tell the police or child services. They will make sure you get a safer home. If you go at least 96 hours without water, you could die. That is really bad for you. I would do something right away. I don't care if your parents threaten you with your life, tell someone!!!!!!
2007-01-25 23:49:29 UTC
Yes...this is absolutely abuse and you need to report it to school authorities and police. You're older now...make them believe what you're enduring. You cannot continue to live like this without carrying scars of a lifetime
Bethany
2007-01-25 23:48:11 UTC
Yes, this is child abuse. You need to talk to your school counselor as soon as possible.
Bui Bui
2007-01-25 23:30:05 UTC
you should talk to your teacher or social worker about this. You don't deserve to be treated like that
8isenuff
2007-01-25 23:46:11 UTC
girl, what u waiting for? why haven't you told anyone? call and get some help before it's too late....dont' you ever let anyone do that to you......


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