How can I make someone love me...?

Question

A guy I dated back in highschool and I met back up a couple of weeks ago, and we hit it off so fast. We were hanging out and he told me he thought he was falling for me fast, but only a couple days after that I bit the bullet and told him I loved him. I told him not to say anything, I just wanted it out in the open b/c we told each other we wouldn't lie. A few days after that he said it to me with tears in his eyes, so of course I believed him but now his ex has some GREAT news...she said she might be prego, but isn't sure. She cheated on him and said she never wanted to see him again, but how does she know it is his?...SHE DOESN'T! When he found out he told me that we should cool down and "take some time", such a classic line as to "we shouldn't see eachother anymore". I went to college, I'm not stupid! So I text him to see how he is doing, and all he can say is "I dont know what to say to you anymore", what the hell is that supposed to mean? I just want to make him love me again.....

Answer 1

2 words- WALK AWAY...

You are responsible for your happiness and love is always a risk

you took the risk , now its time to let it go before it ruins your very heart. Dont text him, dont talk to him, and if need be , stand in front of a mirror and call yourself stupid, cry if you have to, and determine yourself to be strong and realize he is definately not worth your time.

Answer 2

Well, first of all you can't make someone love you, Sweetie. And second of all, he is going through a really tramatic thing and it sounds like he just needs some space to clear his head. The best thing you can do is to let him know that you will give him the space he needs to figure things out and that you will be there for him if he needs someone to talk to. I am guessing that if you give him a few days without any pressure he will come around. Don't pressure him, that the last thing he needs right now. I am not telling you to let him walk all over you and treat you bad though. Let him know that you are giving him space, not free reign to stomp all over your feelings and bounce back and fourth between you and his ex. If after a while he is still being distant then you need to move on. Good luck!!

Answer 3

You can not make anyone love you. He has some issues that he needs to work out before he can even think about getting involved in another serious relationship. By the sounds of things, he still loves his ex. If she is pregnant, it will be at least 8 months or so before he can find out if the baby is his, and during that time, he may decide to forgive her and stay with her regardless. He may not, but you shouldn't put your life on hold for him. Nobody is worth that. I'm sorry you're suffering, but all you can do is move on with your life. He may have meant it when he said he loved you, but he may love his ex more, and he doesn't seem willing or able to let her go. Do yourself a favor and start dating other people.

Answer 4

There is no way. Besides, why would you be loved by some one uncapable of it? You deserve a lot better, and be careful, some guys will bring down the moon and the stars just to take you to bed, and you tell me that you still fell in love with him?

You are in college and you aren't stupid, I'll take that, but being smart at college and being wise in life are 2 totally different areas. Being smart in college will never make you happy, it will only bring money in the fitire, but getting wisdom and handling your issues propperly will avoid you falling in too many holes in life, and in the end will lead you to hapiness.

Take care. Be wise. God Bless.

Answer 5

Wow! That's quite a story. First, you can't "make somebody love" one another. It's a feeling deep inside that comes from the heart. I would give it some time and things will run their course. It's just the way that it is. Until then, I would try and find someone else if you're searching for a "companion." Best of luck to you!

Answer 6

Dear Heart,



You have learned one of life's hardest lessons... you can't MAKE someone else love you.



What he is telling you is, in effect, "the baby's mine and I have all I can handle on my hands right now." Step back. Give him room and ONE piece of advice: Tell him to have her take a paternity test. Tell him that if the result is negative, you DEFINITELY want to hear from him again.



In his backward way, he is trying to step up and take on his responsibility here, and you must respect that. Wait patiently for the results. Don't bug him about what happens. IF you haven't heard anything after several months, forget him and move on. He will have done so.

Answer 7

I'm sorry sweetie but there is nothing that you can do to make someone love you! I have tried, trust me & it doesn't work! He actually might be a decent man & is "stepping up to the plate" once he found out that his ex was pregnant; maybe he feels like he needs to do the right thing & be with her. You will just never know & unless you can confront him about it, then you'll going to mull over it for days/weeks.

Answer 8

Lots of guys say they love a girl but have no idea what real love is but I would not hold your breath at all because love goes on and your true love is out there.Finish your college and get your life on a roll and trust me things will fall into place for you.I bet your a nice girl and will find someone to treat you right like a lady is supposed to be treated.

Answer 9

Either he loves you or he doesn't. You can't make him love you. The only thing that I can say is be yourself and give him the time that he needs. If he loved you before, he probably stlii loves you now, but a baby is a big deal, so he may be a little confused right now.

Answer 10

I hate to be the bearer of bad news...

BUT you can never make anyone love you..love is something that can not be explained as to why a person feels it for another and it can never be forced on anyone..no matter how bad you want it to be or how hard you try..



Someone will love you, and when that person comes along, you will know it.. if its not this guy, thats ok..you will eventually meet the person who will truely love you and you wont have to stress out or do anything other than be yourself to receive this love...

Answer 11

No matter what.. you cannot make someone love you! Sorry =( Those are just experiences in your life, in which you should just take them and learn from them. It should make you a stronger person. Just LIVE!!!!!! Let things happen, your day of happiness will come, just try to move on. *Life is TOO short to be unhappy*



~Good Luck Girlie~

Answer 12

The short answer to that is,You can't. It takes two to make a relationship. If he's telling you he wants to cool it then cool it. Give him time, if he comes back then you can work on things.

Answer 13

you can't make him love you, but you might still be friends. i believe that one of the reasons you fell for him was that he was honest and RESPONSIBLE. allow him this time to find out whether or not the child is his. he is only trying to do the right thing and should be commended for that b/c not many men take responsibility to the heart. help him through it. who knows the cheating witch might've signed her on walkin papers. and he'll have your shoulder to cry on.

Answer 14

There isn't a way to make any man love you. If they love you it's because of who you are. He obviously doesn't want to get close to you in case his ex does end up pregnant and it is his. Just in case.

Answer 15

You cant make people love you, If its meant to be than be than things will work out but you must always be yourself and dont hover over the person so much, it freaks them out

Answer 16

you need to give him his space. he is probably freaking out right now at the idea of possibly becoming a daddy. if she turns out not to preggers, then maybe he will come back around. be patient and good luck!

Answer 17

Seriously, he is not the one with the problem here it is you. Love yourself enough to know that he is bad news. He ran screaming because you came on too strong too fast. You scared him so much that he would rather be stuck with a pregnant woman who he cheated on . . .



You can't make someone love you. All you can do is love yourself enough that someone gravitates toward your universe.

Answer 18

you cannot make ppl love you. either they do or they dont. you need to move on. and dont let him back into your life. you will be just asking for more trouble.

Answer 19

the only way you can make someone love you, you have to give your heart first, then wait for their reply

Answer 20

You can never make someone love you. Sorry :-(

Answer 21

you can't make someone love you...