i feel like i want to die?

Question

i feel like i want to die because i feel life would be better without me.
my parents are divorced.live with mother.always fight. saying i act like her husband other than a kid because of the way i talk to here such as talking back to her.because i seem to get mad a say some words that i didn't really mean as if i cant Control what i say. i seem to not get along with people because i never talk to anyone.i feel there is no place for me in this world. my mother changes around other people but cant do that for me such as not drinking and smoking.She never wants to hear what i have to say because i am always negativetive in a way i dont really think i am.my father lost his house and does drugs. i feel life would be better to go on with out me because of all the following of what i do / say. no one seems to understand me. everyone hates me.
why be alive?

Answer 1

You are not responsible for the actions or unhappiness of your parents.



Take a look at the following website, they also have message boards or you can phone them.



www.childline.org.uk and Tel. [phone]

Answer 2

Look, your life is clearly tough right now, but dying is not the answer. Alot of kids your age feel the same way, trust me, it is normal and I have been through it myself. I can offer you important things to remember:

1. Although your life is bleak right now, you are still young and there is bags of potential for future happiness

2. When the present sucks, think about the future, have goals and ambitions - if you are living for a fantastic job you want in the future or a sport you want to become great at, it will take your mind off your troubles and help you become more positive (hopefully making your mum hear what you want to say).

3. This is going to sound didactic, but focus on your schoolwork. If everything's dull and horrible anyway, you might as well do something dull but productive, and it *will* have benefits later on.

4. When you walk around at school or wherever you meet people, imagine a facade around you. Think of a character from a book or TV that is super-confident (e.g. James Potter) and Imagine you are them - your sole purpose in life is now to be absolutely charming. You will not talk about your feelings, you will not allow awkwardness. You will think carefully of what everyone wants to hear you say and radiate a totally fake glowing friendliness. Imagine an upbeat song in your head and walk in time to it. After a time, you will be able to take down this falsehood and be genuinely happy and friendly, once you've got to know some people.

5. If you really want to, call a support group about your parents' smoking, drinking and drugs. There are lots out there and it is people like you that they want to help.

6. Escape. Don't cut yourself off from the real world, but do leave say half an hour each day when you blast the world away with music or with a silly conversation with a friend.

7. If you have any siblings or 'kind of' friends, try and get closer to them, they are more fun than you realise.

8. Stick it out. In five years you will look back at this time and count it as a formative experience. Your life can and will improve if you let it.



Good luck

Answer 3

People tend to say nasty things they don't mean when they are mad. It seems that you have already recognized what you'd done wrong. It'd help to ease the fights if you try to apologise sincerely to your Mom. Or perhaps, when things are heated, just tell her that you have to walk away because you don't want to go further & blurted out hurtful things.



She is your Mom, who has taken care of you for a long time. Of course she loves you and wants to see you happy. Everyone is in a difficult place, give yourself a break. Turn to sports or books or anything else (not drugs, alcohol or smoking) that calms you down. It may seem very difficult now, but everyone is wanted.

Answer 4

You know, I used to give a motivational speech... But I tired of doing this.



Look kid, you need to grow up. Life changes fast. You are in a bad situation now, but five years from now life will be way different. It may not seem like it now, but trust me it will. I've been on the streets, I've been stabbed, mugged, beat, harassed by police and regular people, dealt with deaths of close friends and family, and a whole host of other **** that made me tired of life. But you know what? I always picked my head up and tried to better myself.



If you're going to do it, do it. Just know that is the most cowardly, selfish, punk move you could make. You aren't the only one going through a hard time and you won't be the last. Man up and deal with the cards life gave you.



I'm done.

Answer 5

I literally know exactly how you feel, kid. Life is miserable when you have to live with parents, especially when you don't get along. BUT I promise you, it gets soooo much better once you get older.



I HATED my mother, she was a drug addict and my dad's been in prison my whole life... the one thing i learned, you're the only person that can make yourself happy. You'll make it through this, you'll get a job and start saving for an apartment, and eventually you'll be on your own. and once that happens, you're in charge of your life and things get a million times better. I've literally been in your shoes and can tell you that it's worth it to just stick it through.

Answer 6

I think you should take some time and realize what your saying. Life is the greatest gift god has given you and you need to live it to your full potential. Don't let the hard times bring you down. Trust me people have gone through way worse and are doing fine now. I think you should start thinking positive. Open up to your mom and tell her how you feel. Sometime just talking to someone who you know cares for you makes things better.

Answer 7

For the fun of it, you'll die eventually so no need to rush it. Just flow with life and do what you must because you will know what the other side is like eventually. If you go there now you'll end up wondering what you're life would have been like. Just stick through it, eventually things will get better! Live life for the experience, don't like things get to you, enjoy what you can and let everything else go as it does. Physical existence is merely one stop in your life, if you died now you'll end up somewhere else, as to where I don't know.

Answer 8

dude man somewhere inside you there a better person...sry if your family is falling apart is not your fault!!! look forward show that your better than anyone in your family show that you will have a better life father do drugs mother a drunk that common! but no your a better person stop looking what people think of you just look deep inside yourself find what you want life move to a anthor state meet new people start your life over..but dont do the same **** over and over...your better than that man...leaveing this world like that will only make it worst man....just remember God still loves you man and i love you...

Answer 9

My life used to be messed up like that too, actually it still is, just not as bad, I lived through it, and i think it made me a stronger person, you need to face life and grab it by the horns, Just live through it and If you make the right desisions then you can have a great life afterwards.

Answer 10

You are going through a crisis that most teenagers and lonely people suffer. You are not alone and please do not think that you are. There are people who can and will help you and bring you to realise that life can be much better and much happier for you. Talk to someone very soon please. Call the Samaritans if you have no close friends or relatives you can trust. The Samaritans are used to dealing with problems like you have described and you can phone them free, and anonimously. Please do it before its too late

Answer 11

We can't choose our family, but we can choose how we live our own lives. Parents make mistakes just like everyone else. Some are good parents, some are selfish neglectful parents. Some make intelligent decisions, some not so much. It is up to us to take the good and leave the bad examples that our parents give to us. We can not blame them for anything that happens to us once we are old enough to make our own decisions. So, that means that no matter how bad things are you can improve them. You can start working on making a better life for yourself.



I can't believe that you would allow the mistakes that your parents made decide your future. You are a strong person that can change anything in your life that you want to change. You can develop a nice personality. You can quit cursing people. You can get rid of that negative attitude. You must think that no one else has problems.



Let me tell you that my step father treated me like I was nothing. He tortured me by calling me names, and he even molested me. He threatened my family if I told anyone, and I felt hopeless. I decided that no matter what happened, I was going to end up with a happy life, and I did. I started by ignoring his remarks. I looked at him, and realized that he had nothing to offer me in the way of being a role model, so I excluded him unless it was absolutely necessary to talk to him. I looked for good role models. I searched out people that I admired and respected for some reason, and learned from talking to them, and observing them. I worked on my personality, made myself more stylish, learned how to speak properly to people, went to school for an education, and now I have a wonderful life. I left behind me all of the disappoints of my past. I still have disappointments, but I NEVER let them control my life. I am in charge of this life, and I plan to make the best of it.



You can do this too. Use some of the following sites to help you:



http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Divorced-Parents



http://www.ehow.com/how_2281282_become-better-person.html?ref=fuel&utm_source=yahoo&utm_medium=ssp&utm_campaign=yssp_art



http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Bad-Habits



http://www.ehow.com/how_4451717_build-your-selfesteem.html



http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Friends



http://www.succeedsocially.com/sociallife



http://www.wikihow.com/Set-Goals-for-Life



http://www.ehow.com/how_4558075_set-life-goals.html



http://www.ehow.com/how_5059933_money-college-tuition.html?ref=fuel&utm_source=yahoo&utm_medium=ssp&utm_campaign=yssp_art



http://www.howtodothings.com/careers/choosing-the-right-career-path-for-you



Anything you want to learn, just ask the question in the yahoo or some other search engine. You will have to sort though them, but you WILL get answers.



Be proactive, and start making a better life for yourself today. It is never too early or too late to do it.



Good luck and God Bless You.

Answer 12

Hello,



This sounds way too familiar to me. As a young kid my mother was ill, and divorced. I took a more adult approach to life, and it hasn't especially gotten me anywhere. You are worth more than you think! things are difficult right now, you need your mother, as well as she needs you. I understand, I really do.



Feel free to email me [e-mail]



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Answer 13

just because ur not admired doesnt mean people arent there to notice u, if u want a better life, then make it better. dont let people control u just cuz they say who u are and what u are, SO WHAT?! my advice is this: "Let people judge who you are, but don't let them judge who YOU want to be, because if words don't work, prove them wrong with example!"

Answer 14

stop and listen to yourself...you want to die???? thats just wrong....like literally.....theres a place in the world for everybody....keep your hopes high,life only cumes once, make the most out of it, live life! dont care what ppl say becuz ppl will always say crap to get you down

Answer 15

You do not need to die, trust me, people truly care about you! Killing yourself isn't the answer. Call 1-800-SUICIDE and talk to someone, they can help you. Trust me.

Answer 16

It sounds like your young and you have your whole life ahead of you.. you need to talk to a councilor to help you through

Answer 17

planning for dreams and goals gives your head somewhere to escape to and a better future to move towards

Answer 18

please, please, please don't die. You don't know but I am sure there are people who need you. Your mom is just having her own problem, just think how difficult it might be for her after what she's gone through. Please don't do anything stupid, you'll regret it, Get counseling if possible.

Answer 19

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Answer 20

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