Well, I know all about this because I have a VERY similar situation. I separated from my husband a yr ago, moved to another city 4 hrs away in another province where I know no one and have no relatives to begin a new life. I got a job right away with the Gov't, but had to quit during winter because the roads made the commute to a neighbouring city impossible. I have been unemployed for 4 months, I don't qualify for unemployment benefits because I wasn't at my job long enough (short by 15 hrs). I didn't think money would be a problem as I assumed I would have landed a new job a long time ago or my ex-husband would have settled our separation and given me my payout. None of this has happened. I am struggling to pay my bills and am living off my credit card. When the max is reached, I don't know what I am going to do. This move, this plan to begin a new life has turned into a nightmare. Nothing is working out, so I definitely know how you feel.
The point behind telling you my story is to tell you that there are lots of people with similar problems to you. I don't have family to help me such as you do. I am a single, middle aged woman, alone in a new city and I know 2 people here. I have never felt so alone in my entire life, everyday I feel the same as you do. BUT, every night before I go to bed, I decide that tomorrow will be a better day. I take stock of my blessings, and make a list of at least 10 things I am grateful for today. Some days are easier than others, but I make myself find 10 things EVERYDAY.
This is what I know about you and what you should be grateful for:
1) you have family that love you and are helping you
2) you have a job
3) you have an education that you can use to score a better job. Start applying via email during the day to apply for a job you are more suited for. Seek out employment services to help you with this as well. You say you don't have experience, but you do. Look at the skills you have learned at your present job and any other jobs you have had and apply them to the medical field you are trying to break into. There are cross-over skills which you can emphasize.
3) If you can get an education as a medical assistant, you can also study the manual and get a driver's license. Obviously you are smart.
4) You are 31, so you have learned alot of life skills to help you sort out your options at this point. You have experience working so getting a new job is just a matter of time. You are not 18 just out of school with no life experience to guide you.
5) You can straighten out your finances now because you are living with your parents and you don't have rent, groceries, utilities and other bills to worry about. Go to a credit counselling service to help you figure out how to pay down your debt.
6) You are healthy
7) You are hard working as a graveyard job is not an easy thing to keep up with. No many people can manage those hours, including me!
8) If the people you considered to be friends have abandoned you, they weren't friends to start with as true friends are there when you need them the most. You should be thankful you found out their true nature.
9) Your communication skills are good. You are articulate and this is a huge asset in gaining a better job. Use these communication skills to sell yourself.
10) Use what you know to help other people. It makes you feel good, and it makes you feel productive when other things aren't going well. Stay on this website and talk to other people like this. Start helping other people with their problems, because there are always people worse off than you are!!
Good luck. Remember one thing: when you hit rock bottom, there is only one way to go and that's UP!!! Everything happens for a reason. This is a learning experience, so start learning from your mistakes. There is no shame in failing.
S - See your goal
U - Understand the obstacles
C - Create a positive mental picture
C - Clear your mind of self doubt
E - Embrace the challenge
S - Stay on track
S - Show the world you can do it
:-)