Why did he say he wanted to see me the next day, then ditch me, then start a new relationship?

Question

I was seeing this guy for a month between January and February. He took me out quite a few times, and I did sleep with him. But I thought it was going well, he was always texting me saying things like 'sleep well x' or 'have a good day x' and he told me he thought I was nice, sweet, funny and that he wanted to see me again. I went home from uni for a week, came back and he asked to see me the same day. A few days later he was telling me to forget him, and that he didn't want to see me again. I still can't understand it now because it was right at the point I had feelings for him :( Afterwards I was so upset about it because I know I'm a good person, and if it was just for s*x I can't believe he would do that because he told me hes not like other guys, that he wanted a relationship and that I should trust him. A week later after he had wanted to see me/then told me he didn't want to, he was in a relationship on facebook. I don't know how he could be seeing me for a month and slept with me, and now hes in a relationship? His friend told me early on that he dances around girls and tries it on with girls but isn't after a serious relationship. Did he ditch me because I wasn't good enough? I put alot in to being nice and sweet to him!

Answer 1

You and all young women should realize that if you give it up too easily you stand a 50/50 chance of being dumped. This has been a constant for probably 1000 years, but girls still seem to think they know better. Live and learn and please dont be so quick to sleep with a guy. Let someone else endure the hearbreak.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry about this. And I wish some guys would not just be pigs. But he's a jerk. Guys will lie to get what they want. He's probably one of the guys that finds a girl and then has second thoughts because he sees another girl. Just forget him he isn't worth your tears. U r better than him and u were so good enough for him. He wasn't good enough for u.

Answer 3

you sound good enough and he doesn't, I have a friend and she really liked a boy they phoned eachother everynight and kissed eachother in public and all that, he was really nice to her and so was she to him then they had s*x and a week later he said he didn't want a serious relationship and kissed another girl at a party, it ends up he was just after het for the s*x, probably the same with you and he shouldn't have done that but that's just the way some people are, listen to the rumours next time

Answer 4

Sorry sweety but this sounds like he just used you. You should've waited before you slept with him. The longer you would have waited, the more his true colours probably would have showed. Guys don't want a girlfriend who they think is easy, for some reason they like to chase. If the next person you go out with/ bf is one you really like then don't sleep with them straight away. I say don't have sex b4 marriage or till you've been dating for a loooong time, there's less heart break in it.

Answer 5

Seems like he was just spending time with you until someone he likes better came along. It is rude, but not much to do about it.

Answer 6

maybe nerds is right but its still not your fault- 5hit happens forgive yourself and find someone alot better

Answer 7

better sex.