Fiance no longer wants sex.?

Question

We have a child together, a house together and have been together almost 4 years. He recently told me that he no longer wants to have sex and that he doesnt really ever get sexual urges. He said he doesnt even know why he had sex in the first place and that he just basically has no interest in sex and that we wont be having sex anymore. he's not cheating on me, for sure. and he's not gay. What can I do? He's the love of my life and the father of my child, but sex is a big deal for me. I enjoy sex and cant imagine never having sex again, at least sex in which both people enjoyed it.. Help?

Answer 1

Are you really sure he is not cheating on you ?

Or maybe he is one of those asexual ones. Although he HAD sex with you previously since you had a child.

If he had to force himself to do so...well I am not quite sure how to answer you.



Time for negociations. It would be very cruel of him to expect you to remain sexless till the end of your life just to be on a par with him.

He should definitely consider your needs and maybe allow you to have a "Friends with Benefit".

I do not see why you should suffer really.

You would not be selfish whatsoever and yes sex is important.

What if someone decide that you became a nun against your will ?

Answer 2

Have him see a doctor, that could be a sign of a medical condition. In any case, if he really loves you this should be something he's willing to do for you. This sounds like something someone would do as a prank, are you sure he's serious? You seem very sure that he's not cheating on you, which is good and seems to indicate open communication, try using that same open communication to find out why he's not interested in sex. Maybe there's just a particular aspect of it that he hates which stops him from enjoying the rest of it. Hopefully you can find a solution that makes you both happy.

Answer 3

I'm sorry and don't mean to hurt you. It sounds like he is having second thoughts about getting married.This may be just an excuse. It may have nothing to do with you. It may be that he is finding himself as a commitment phobic. Is the wedding date nearing? Try to communicate with him in a very sensitive but honest manner. Sexual intimacy is very necessary in a marriage and or relationship to keep you feeling close and loving towards one another. You shouldn't settle here. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

Well you have already started a life with this man. To leave him over something as stupid as sex would just show how trivial you are.



Or you could be like so many other people and leave this man, the father of your child, for your own selfish desires.



Thumbs down all you'd like- This is the full truth. Sex is nothing important. Bodies are perfectly normal and natural without it. But your spirit requires real love.

Answer 5

Well Ash, it appears the writing is on the wall and if sex is important to you then you need to think long and hard before marrying this guy. Women are more often the ones who cut off all sex but its not uncommon for men to do this. I feel for you.

Answer 6

Yes he could be asexual and just did it so he could be with you as a platonic partner or his libido is right down.

Answer 7

He needs to see a doctor. Is he depressed?

Answer 8

no offense but it sounds weird, everyone and their mom get sexual urges. we all animals yo.

Answer 9

he needs to go to the doctor and see what is wrong with him. maybe he needs viagra.

Answer 10

well you could ask him what his ultimate fantasy is and then do that for him.

Answer 11

with all seriousness, it could be something medical... otherwise its very abnormal for us guys NOT to want that....lol