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2011-02-24 12:24:30 UTC
I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and I have known him for about 4 years, and we have a very very good relationship, as I have met all of his family, and he has met all of mine, even distant relatives. Me and him never argue, we are always laughing, talking and we have such a good history, you could say every thing is perfect. Our relationship is only 99.99% perfect...
It's just one thing that is playing on my mind, but it did happen a long time ago. It happened about 2 months into our relationship, and everything was going well, but at this time we wasn't having anytype of sexual relationship what so ever, but it was in the evening time, I'd logged onto his fb account(we know each others passwords) to put a message from me in the personal box (At this time, they still had the message box below the profile pictures). And I found an open chat with a girl... I'd never seen him talk to ever, with all the years I've known him. In the chat, which he had started, they first started making small talk, and thought nothing of it, and wouldn't of read on, but the girl who he was speaking to, put the message across that she was 'drunk' and was saying bazar things to him, like 'i like rockkkkkkkkk' and came across as abit of a strange kind of punk wannabe... they were speaking like they had known each other well, and to me, she seemed a sort of strange girl, and he was speaking friendly to her back, but then, out of the blue, he said to her: 'I'm bored, I might do something ;)' and she then asked what, and he said: 'I'm in my boxers... Grey Calvin Klein ;)' So, at this point I started to get very panicy, after all of the year I have known him, he has never been a prick to any girl he has ever been with. The chat was about 2am, about an hour after he had been speaking to me on the phone, and I was at this time, asleep. She continued to go along with what he was saying, and he said: 'Guess whats underneath... something you've seen... ;)' SOMETHING SHES SEEN?! This really worried me, as I am still completely unaware if this is before, or after our relationship, but I assumed it was before, because the way they were speaking, it sounded like they hadn't spoke in a long time. She then, said: 'Pleasee don't :( I am seeing someone, and you have a girlfriend, don't you love her?' And he said: 'Yes, of course I do' And after that, the conversation continued, but they spoke about a boy she liked, whom was 8 years older than her, and did drugs... But, as you can imagine, I was so upset, and shocked, as he never spoke like that with me. But I ignored it, and I felt like I had to please him, or he would be talking like this to other girls, and make a fool out of me... I didn't confront him, until about 3 months later, when I had been thinking about it a lot, and he was completely confused, and said it couldn't of been him, he would never do that to me, after everything we have been through, and I could tell he was telling the truth, but I knew that it was definately him. But, I didn't want to upset him any further, because I had got the idea he had forgotten all about it, and wouldn't know what I am talking about! He is naturally a very very forgetfull person. So, After that I just left it, after he let me know, he loved me and only me. I didn't feel like I couldn't trust him after, because he hardly speaks to any other girls, infact he has no female friends at all, and no girls speak to him, and he speaks to no girls. But, often me and him would speak about our past exs, and I already knew, that the girl who he was talking to that night, was almost very close friends to his ex girlfriend... and my boyfriend told me, that the only sexual relationships he has had, is with me and his ex girlfriend... so I wondered, where this other girl on chat he was talking to came in, as he had said, she had seen IT?! My boyfriend told me a while ago, along with that, that the only reason he was with his ex girlfriend, is because his bestfriend was with her bestfriend (which may or may not be this girl...)? So, the thought that it could of been his bestfriends girlfriend makes it even worse... and all of this is playing on my mind, and it really hurts and upsets me, as I need to know the truth if there is more to know!!
What should I do?!?? Please help mee!!