Question:
What would you do, abort for him or lose him to keep it?
The one and only ✿
2012-08-02 19:49:27 UTC
I'm 17 about to be 18 years old and I think I may be pregnant. Me and my boyfriend have been together 8 months. He is 20 and in college. He has a big future in front of him and he doesn't by any means want or need a kid right now which is very understandable. The thing is I know that if I am pregnant he will try and make me have an abortion due to the fact he is t ready and I understand that but if I am pregnant I wouldn't want to abort the baby due to moral reasons. So do I abort the baby just in order to be with the man I love or do I choose to keep it like I would want and lose the man I love? We were both irresponsible for a one night unprotected sex it's not the child's fault if I am pregnant it's just hard to know the man I love would make me choose such a decision so it comes down to abort the baby for him or keep it and him resent me how could you possibly choose?
Eleven answers:
peaceablefruit206
2012-08-03 15:09:47 UTC
Personally, I don't believe in abortion for any reason. The reason why is because I believe that life starts once the egg is fertilized by the sperm cell. New advances in technology have enabled scientists to observe the amazing changes that take place in the nucleus of this one-celled fertilized egg. The molecules making up the DNA of the father and mother combine to create a human life that never existed before. That original single cell begins the truly miraculous process of constructing a fully formed human. The nature of this "construction" project is determined by our genes, which are segments of DNA. These control virtually everything about us. They determine our height, facial features, eye and hair color, and thousands of other traits.



Afterward, as that original cell divides, the complete genetic "blueprint" is duplicated into every new cell. Amazingly, each of these is programmed to develop into whatever kind of cell is needed. This includes heart tissue, brain cells, bone, skin, and even transparent tissue for our eyes. The initial programming within the original cell for the development of a unique new person has understandably often been referred to as "a miracle."



"The human being is fully programmed for human growth and development for his or her entire life at the one cell age," reported Dr. David Fu-Chi Mark, a celebrated molecular biologist. He concluded: "There can no longer be any doubt that each human being is totally unique from the very beginning of his or her life at fertilization."



Since I believe that life begins once the cell is fertilized, I believe that abortion at any point after that puts an end to that life, also called murder. I liken it to a man and woman who are forced into marriage because they live in a culture where they don't have a say in whom they marry. The husband thinks it is unfair because he never wanted to marry his wife but is only stuck married to her because of the circumstances of his culture, so he puts her to death to free himself. There is no doubt that he commited murder, and it is just as undoubtful that a woman committing abortion because she is unintentionally pregnant is doing the same thing. The only thing the murdered wife did was get married because of the circumstances, and the only thing the murdered baby did was be conceived because of the circumstance.



I also have taken into consideration the light that the Bible sheds on the matter. Psalms 139:16 says that God sees the embryo deep inside the woman, showing that he recognizes the life that it has. Also, under the Mosaic Law, Exodus 21:22-25 says that if a pregnant woman got injured because she got caught up between two men fighting with each other, then whatever deformities or death that the child suffered should be imposed upon the man responsible. If God thought it serious enough to punish a person who unintentionally injured an unborn child, how do you think he feels about a person who intentionally does it?



These are my personal beliefs and I never force them on others. Besides, the Bible itself says "each one will carry his own load." (Galatians 6:5) Women contemplating abortion would do well to consider how their Creator feels about it, and how they would feel after the abortion is over. There are many, many women who have been surveyed who regret getting an abortion. Also, there are many woman who got pregnant due to rape (some were even due to incest), but they were able to live normal lives. While they regret the manner in which the child was born, they don't regret that the child was born. There are even times when doctors say that the child should be aborted because it's quality of life or life expectancy looks grim, but the child is born perfectly healthy or lives much longer than the doctor said. There are also many parents who have children with deformities, but instead of wishing the child was never born, they cherish each day they do have with the child as if it may be their last. Such ones who feel like their back is against the wall should know that their situation is not unique. Others have triumphed who are in their situation, and any hurdles that taking care of a child poses have been overcome and can be overcome again.



Sources: http://www.watchtower.org/e/200906/article_01.htmhttp://www.watchtower.org/e/200906/article_02.htmhttp://www.watchtower.org/e/200906/article_03.htm
pissedmomma
2012-08-02 20:04:41 UTC
First of all, take a pregnancy test first and perhaps this issue won't be one at all. On the other hand, if you are pregnant ... ultimately this is YOUR decision and not anyone else's. I think that your BF has a right to know about the pregnancy and I also think that if you are in love with each other then talking to him about this is important. Hear him out - he may surprise you.



Now if YOU decide that you aren't interested in abortion ... are you interested in further education or travelling or working, hanging out with your friends, pursuing your own interests? Think about it. You can still facilitate a healthy pregnancy and deliver a child without being a parent to it. Talk to your family Dr and find out what your options are. (Adoption?!!) Having a child doesn't ruin your life but the changes a child will make to your life are definitely drastic ... wouldn't you want to wait until you are ready for that?



Good luck, you will make the right choice.
mensah
2016-09-11 06:12:32 UTC
You are dealing with probably the most complex and emotional selections of your existence. Further, this is a choice to be able to - mainly for those who endure and maintain the baby - endlessly CHANGE your existence. Anti-abortion lovers fail to remember the only measurement of this query that abortion a minimum of makes feasible. You CAN select how so much this being pregnant will have an effect on your existence. Although having an abortion may also be - will truthfully most likely be - an occasion that explanations you to suppose, "What it - ?" .. whilst, abortion additionally opens your offerings in approaches that determining to bring and provide a baby closes off. Adoption , of path, a minimum of limits to a point the lifelong alterations that maintaining and elevating the baby will create. Nonetheless, carrying on with the being pregnant itself makes giant alterations and boundaries offerings, and actually, offers extra well being dangers than abortion. I am NOT advocating that you just abort this baby. However, the lovers will feed you lies and terror studies as an alternative than have a peaceful, open dialogue approximately the truly dimensions of the offerings you've got now. In your challenge, i might talk over with a Planned Parenthood health center and ask for one among their counselors to preserve this dialogue and take some time to broaden on it. A Yahoo Answers board is most likely the final position to get knowledge to be able to in all instances difference your existence. But do not permit the harridans and monsters of the anti-abortion motion foul your middle and brain, both. Good good fortune!
A. Nestoiter-Gravity
2012-08-02 20:12:40 UTC
Do all sorts of home remedies, sitting in a hut tub, or some other things. Maybe you will get your period and everything will be cleared out.



If you choose to abort, don't do it for him. He is not worth it. Baby or no baby, this guy will leave you at the first opportunity to get something better. He is not a keeper, and not a family material. Just because he might have good future, it doesn't mean he will want to share with you. People like that are very self-centered.



You need to put yourself through school and make something out of yourself, or you will forever be dependent on trading sex for a place to live in.
malibutan
2012-08-02 20:01:21 UTC
First, let me say, you both should've planned a little better. But, hindsight's 20/20. As far as whether to abort...NEVER do anything like that for a man. That is something you can't undo. You can't take it back. If you do it, do it for yourself. You should think of it this way. Yes, you're young. Yes, you love him. But, the love you'll have for that baby will far surpass anything you'll ever feel for any man. If he TRUELY loves you, he won't break up with you over this baby. Think long and hard. But, hopefully you don't have a thing to worry about. Be more careful next time. Take care.
MOEJ
2012-08-02 20:10:48 UTC
Hon,

I feel badly for you.

Shortly you will have to make that decision though, won't you?

So I could say pray about it and that's good if you're a praying person - guidance could come through prayer...but if you're not into praying, then _you've already got something in mind_ that would be your choice. Life presents us with many situations that are designed to teach us something about ourselves and about life in general. This has to be one of those times and I know you'll do whatever is right for you and your potential unborn.

Only one piece of advice I'd offer, hon, is that should you decide to abort, that you give yourself a good talking to beforehand so that you won't let guilt ruin the rest of your life... Forgive yourself, forgive him and just move on with your life. You'll be fine, hon.
Poppet
2012-08-02 20:17:18 UTC
I honestly think adoption would be your best choice since abortion is not an option for you. You aren't ready to be a Mom. He's not ready to be a Dad. Let people who are ready have the opportunity to be parents.
bronzebabekentucky
2012-08-02 20:04:33 UTC
Any man that tells you to get an abortion isn't worth keeping.

Never get an abortion.
DRUMMERGIRL4JESUS
2012-08-02 19:58:54 UTC
I would ditch him, and have the baby. The reason that would be an easy decision for me is because I was almost aborted.
Penela
2012-08-02 21:09:39 UTC
Find out for sure whether you are pregnant or not. Can't see the point in you fretting about all this stuff before you even know for sure one way or the other.
Melissa
2012-08-02 20:14:09 UTC
Personally if I was you I'd get an abortian. You have your whole life ahead of you! Do you want to spend it poor with diapers up to your knees? Just my opinion do what ever the hell you want slut


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