do you think i'm a freak?

Question

i live in an apartment where many young people live and party. (i can't move out 'cause it's the cheapest apartment i can find.) the things is i don't like people basically. i usually stay in my room most of the time, composing songs. music is the only thing i like. i used to play in a band but now i quit since i like playing all parts alone, and i don't wanna see anyone. some people come to my place to chek out on me while i'm writing songs, playing the guitar, bass or whatever, and it really gets me annoyed, especially when i'm zoning in. is this a problem. i feel awful about myself somehow.

Answer 1

Yes, I think you are a freak ............... freaking awesome!



Seriously though, "no man is an island unto himself." There is nothing wrong with needing privacy, solitude, or "alone time." But constantly isolating yourself from others is not healthy for the mind or body.



I hate to say it, but dealing with other people on a daily basis, is just a fact of life. If you want to make your way in this world, you are just going to have to get used to it, especially if you want to have a career in music. Politeness, tact, friendliness, responsiveness, and being a good listener, are pretty much the most valuable skills that you can develop, and I gaurantee you are going to need them in the future.You don't have to enjoy being social, but you do have to deal with the reality of social interaction.



Second. You may want to speak to a counselor, or a psychologist. Social isolation can be a symptom of a bigger problem, such as depression, generalized anxiety disorder., social phobia, Aspberger's syndrome, borderline personality, etc, etc. Most of these conditions are very treatable, and you don't have to let them control your life.



Lastly, you are not a freak. There is nothing wrong with you as a person. You are not evil, you are not "bad", and you are not "broken." You have no reason to feel sorry for yourself, and every reason to act. If you do not like the current situation you are in, then you should do everything you can to change it.



Good Luck,

~W.O.M.B.A.T.

Answer 2

Nothing is wrong with you, but I can see the conflict.



You are a loner- a private and quiet person who likes peace and solitude. And you live in a house packed to the gills with social butterflies... You are not weird, just mismatched.



How about you do your best to get along for now, but search for a place to live with other folks who appreciate quiet? Or maybe try and find a tiny little studio somewhere? It would be more expensive, but you could be alone...



Don't let people let you believe that you are wrong for feeling the way you do. It takes all kinds- and you are a valuable and worthy person. You deserve respect, regardless of your desire to be alone.



Good luck, friend.

Answer 3

I don't think it is wierd in the least bit. I mean, you kinda seem like you need to get out and find some friends, but no, these are things you enjoy doing. There is nothing wrong with having hobbies. I do that sometimes, I write stories, poems and play cello and don't exactly like beeing disturbed while doing any of them. I think you do need to sometimes go out and do other things though, it would probably benefit you. And if you just want to talk to someone you can email me(Click my pic, i have my email on my profile) You sound ALOT like a friend that I know online, and I don't mind talking or just listening if you want to talk to someone.

Answer 4

you are withdrawing yourself to society. There is something wrong with you. You may have social-anxiety disorder. You may simply hate yourself or your life. You may not be able to face life. You may fear the fact that you have to grow up. You have a problem. You need to research your symptoms and figure out which or how many disorders that you have. You may want to seek professional help, like a psychiatrist. Medication my help you to feel better about yourself and give you hope. Does your parents know of your situation? You need help, and I am saying this as a friend (which I know you don't have, as you have stated earlier). You need to seek help. I'm sure you are a nice person and you shouldn't feel awful about yourself. Seek help. Ever heard of Layne Staley? Alice n Chains. Awesome vocalist. He ended his life in the same situation. Do you like to smoke marijuana? Get help man. Talk to someone who can help you.

Answer 5

Sounds like you're becoming anti-social because you spend so much time in that apartment by yourself! I don't think you're a freak at all....I've gone through that before....I used to just stay in my room...watch tv....listen to music. Its ok...just get out there...meet new people...make friends and you'll see that you enjoy their company especially if they're enjoyable people.....find people that you can relate too but right now if you want to just be by yourself then do it but eventually your gonna want to be in the company of others.

Answer 6

I think that u may need to speak with someone on some things hat may be going on inside you. I understand that people need space and me time sometimes, but when u dont show gratitude to those who are concerned there is an issue there. This needs to be addressed before ur sitution becomes worse.

Answer 7

That kind of is a problem, you said you dont' like people, well do you want to go places, get your music to be like really popular or w/e? If you do, you're going to have to deal with PEOPLE so you need to try and change that know while you can.

Answer 8

No but that's normal! It's good to go out! But depends what you consider a good time! Look for friends that you'll get along with even in the web!

Answer 9

People are generally overrated. I don't care for them myself, but we do have to share at least the common space on the planet with them.



Might want to find another musician or group of musicians to move in with. If you've got to be with people might at least be with the ones that have similar interests.

Answer 10

Why do you think that you're a freak? If you don't like people around you, then you don't like people around you. If you want to change that though, then try ignoring it. Just concentrate on your music and block everything else

out.

Answer 11

i think ur perfectily fine i don't really like alot of people my self.. people can cause drama,annoyingness, an discomfort, i've lived with people for a year now and they get on my nerves so i stay in my room and keep to my self

Answer 12

You should try to be more sociable and not so self involved. It isn't healthy to be alone ALL the time. I understand the creative process and you do need your privacy....but you also need social interaction...otherwise your music will become dark and lifeless.

Answer 13

no, you're not a freak. you just like to spend most of your time alone..you might be a little anti-social though but definitely not a freak

Answer 14

Listen You Are not no FREAK 4 crying out loud..... No one is.... Every one is strange in there own way. Im really really strange. im not afraid to do anything bcuz I know im a weirdo but i dont care..... Evry one has a strange point..... so dont sweat it 4get it.

Answer 15

we all want our alone time thats for sure, but eing alone all the time is not always healthy either.. as long as you are not depressed , nothing wrong with keeping to your self and your music.......

Answer 16

You might have social anxiety or you might be avoidant.



http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder



OR you might just be introverted and prefer spending time alone exploring your creativity.

Answer 17

naw it's cool but i think you need to get some fresh air though

Answer 18

No....some people just like alone time

i mean....i LOVE alone time

Answer 19

Soo you are self-absorbed. No one is as good as you or as intelligent as you so you dont want to bother with them.

Been there, done that. Get help

Answer 20

Can I move in with u dude?

Answer 21

Lock the door

Answer 22

nope. i think thats cool. put a "keep out" sign on your door.

Answer 23

its okay to feel like that cause i do that too

Answer 24

http://www.digitaldreamdoor.com/pages/lyrics2/sg_iamarock.html

Answer 25

nah

Answer 26

you're a little odd, but we all are in some way.

Answer 27

No, just accept yourself as you are.

Answer 28

you sound normal to me.

Answer 29

umm if you dont really like people thats ok! You could go to a therapist? (idk)

Answer 30

dude u need to get laid

Answer 31

nah. not creepy at all.