ex wans dna test?? PLEASE HELP?

Question

hi,
so im pregnant, i wass withe the father for like 2 months untill i saw hes true colours,, he is a bad person, he lies , takes drugs and is just all round nasty!! he is saying he wants a dna test when my child is born.. i know he is definatley the father but he has even told me he is only doing this to hurt me and infact wants nothing to do with the child and only wants access to get at me... it wudnt trust him to look after my baby, he cant even look after himsels. he is working and fraudulently claiming and i also just found out that he is selling drugs!! hes family is all the same and there is no way i want my child to ever go there!! i am moving away but i know that if he goes through the courts(which he will do to just hurt me) they will force dna testing then he will be allowed acess right... i know you can delay the test but not really refuse it...i know i couldnt take someone elses child as the dna would not match mine.. but cud i have a friend take her daughter (they will be the same age) and pretend to be me????? i know this is illegal but this man is unfit!
p.s please dnt say tell the courts wot he is like... this is to dificult to prove .. i want him out me and bbys life....

pps: wot about when i move to like 3 hours away, if paternity was determined, wot wuld happen with visitation,,i dnt want my child snywhere with that man.
im so stressed right now. it cant be good for the pregnancy.. please help me...xx

Answer 1

Get a lawyer. I think you really need one here.



Ladies everywhere: Never forget that if you choose to have sex with a guy, there is always the chance that you will end up pregnant. As such, don't have sex with him unless you KNOW that he is the guy with whom you would be completely willing to bring a child into the world. And if you have any doubt at all, don't "do it" with him.



Otherwise, you'll run the very real risk of ending up like poor Laura here. And Laura, I can't believe that you knew NOTHING about this man's dysfunctional behaviors. And risking pregnancy with a man with whom you were together for a whopping 2 months is just a dumb move. No offense.



If we women want to be taken seriously as equal adults to men, then we simply have to avoid behavior like this. Totally irresponsible.

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Answer 2

Move before the baby is born. Make him leave messages on your phone and save them to use in court. After the baby is born get custody, it's not a given just because you went through all that labor and the child lives with you. When he goes to court for visitation, then yes write on your paper work WHAT HE DOES, say that's THE REASON YOU LEFT HIM, and WHY YOU MOVED AWAY. Then petition the courts for him to have "supervised visitation" because of his life style. If he's been arrested before get all of that info. He won't be able to see your baby w/out a cort appointed official there, and it will only be for about 2-3 hours in a room. Also let the courts know (even if you're not) that you are fearful for your life so you don't want him having your address.



I'm sure you can get video or something of him doing what he does. Camera phones work wonders~

Answer 3

I agree - move away and don't tell him where you're going. He sounds like a total deadbeat and seeing as though he said he wanted nothing to do with the child, it's unlikely he will pursue it any further. I don't know how it works but would he have to pay for the DNA test? You could go and get a restraining order so he legally has to stay away from you. If this gets to court down the track with paternity, it will look unfavourable on him if you've requested that he not come near you. And it does get to court, he will have to pay child support....

Try not to stress. Make your move, stay healthy and good luck!

Answer 4

Well I think he have the right no matter what if he is the father. But with drugs and all I don't know. I think your best bet is to consult an attorney. But I think you can also go to the women and child services. Good Luck.