Can I beat-up the new guy she is sneaking around with?

Question

I have this situation. I was with this girl for a long time, we have kids together and just recently had a baby (8 months). For the past few months she has been sneaking around with some new guy. When I confronted her about it (Although at first she said they were "just friends") she broke up with me and made this guy her new boyfriend. They were together for about three months, and then she called it quits with him. The whole time this has been going on, I have been on the phone trying to reason with her, doing all sorts of self help dating tactics. Some how I ended up in the "friendzone and jealous ex-boyfriend" category. Yet she speaks to me everyday.

So she recently tells me that she left this guy and just wants to still be his friend. I don't believe they can be friends again. They will always be sneaking and she said she just wants to be my friend. Yet she tells me she loves me and one day we will be back together.

She is obviously insane and confused. So I needed to take back control of this relationship and get control of my woman and family before this insane woman keeps doing this.

So after reading some things on the net, It was told that I needed to be assertive and tell her exactly what I want and to command her to leave this guy alone. It even told me to add more bass to my voice when telling her. The ol' I'm the man and you will listen and do what I say tactic. I've even tried NLP hypnosis to get this girl to forget about this guy.

Nothing has worked. Now I want to hire some thugs from the roughest hood on earth, and have these men beat the **** out of this guy and send him a serious message. Then I want to hire a bodyguard to protect her and watch his every move for a little while until he gets the picture.

I could fight my own battle, problem with me is, I have a very well established job and I have to leave town every week, leaving her free to go and see this guy when I am not around.

So my question is again, Can I hire some thugs (not expensive looking body guards) but some street thugs to beat this guys *** and send him a message? No weapons, just an old fashion *** beating.

Please don't give me the whole, "Move on crap". This is my family we are talking about, I'll be damned if someone comes between my woman and I.

Answer 1

A woman who sneaks around behind your back isn't worth the jail time. Make custody and support arrangements for your kids and show her the door. Let her be someone else's problem. I know it may not be the answer you WANT to hear, but the trust is gone in your relationship, and arranging for a beat down won't stop her from cheating on you with either him or someone else. A cheater isn't worth the headaches or heartaches.

Answer 2

sounds like u don't have a lot going for u both! U are an unfaithful twisted manipulative ***** that not in simple terms betrayed her husband yet betrayed her little ones aswell. U inspired some guy to conquer up ur husband and children dad and this 'brett' gained't elect to play daddy to ur little ones both. i desire u do not get custody of ur little ones by using the indisputable fact that a terrible celebration to be placing! more advantageous positive off with their dad who's no a lot less of a guy because some pathetic violent BOY beat him up. strengthen up i understand 16 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous moms who're more advantageous mature dependable and set more advantageous positive responsibilitites than u!

Answer 3

so what happens with the next guy she goes with? and she will

if she loved you and respected you, she would keep her family together

i cant believe any kind of decent mother does this anyway



your problem isnt with him, there will always be guys like him around

your problem is you choose someone like this to have children with



you will never tame her not have her love or respect

why bust a gut trying?

why show yourself up by wanting someone who treats you like this?

Answer 4

How does prison sound to you?



And you don't own this woman. Sounds like she has already left you emotionally. I hope you get to see your kids often after the divorce, or after prison.

Answer 5

I, personally would beat the crap out of him. No thugs just me.