bf and marriage problem..read below..please..?

Question

ok so i'll be as short as i can..
me and my bf are in a relationship since 4 years almost..he says he loves me alot and wants to marry me someday..now come to my family life..my life is almost hell..my mother and father dont get along well and because of that my mum keeps pouring her frustrations on me due to which my career life has almost failed and i have to live in my own house like a scary cat fearing that my mum must be spying on me(because she usually does)..my ambitions have totally crushed now but the only good thing in my life is my bf..now the problem : i want to get out of this hell as soon as i can and the only way i can think of is getting married...i'm 23 btw....and so i want to marry him...when i told my bf that i want to get married to him he said that he cant marry at this point of his life and he needs 5-6 more years to earn good money and establish himself and that i can marry anyone else if i wish:( he wont have a problem with it...he is of my age..knows about my family problems and i even said to him that if we marry now within this year i promise i wont ask you for a penny till you dont save enough and wont bother you for anything but still he says the same thing...and i need your views..guys..please..i'm totally messed up and confused...does he really love me or is just taking our relationship lightly?

Answer 1

The way I see it he is not really in love with you, how could he even suggest for you to marry somebody else? That doesn't make any sense. Why didn't he at least say let's move in together for now and then we can get marry? Has he ever told you that he loves you? I'm really having a hard time understanding this guy, he's not a teenager any more, he's a man, why can he just be supportive of you? Something is really fishy with him, he could be just using you for the time been until he finds somebody else. I would really put him on the spot, ask him if he really loves you, tell him to be honest, you have the right to know, you don't want to waste your time with someone that doesn't plan to have a future with you. There are many good guys out there that would love to have someone like you, you deserve better. I am so sorry to be so crude about him, but I can't really understand why he does not want a commitment. I wish you the best.

Answer 2

If he tells you that you can marry someone else he mau love you but not the way you deserve he may lm sorry but it doesn't sound like he is in love with you. Also if he knows how your family life is an wont help you get out of the situation then he is probably not the one for you. After 4 years he show it. I hope this helps. If anything think about your parents and how you can find SOMEONE you have the complete opposite kind of relationship your parents have and make it your goals not to settle until you find the man who meets your expectations and standards. Best of luck!

Answer 3

A small "Ganesha" idol, (if he/she's a hindu); A little picture of " Aaya/Mekka" from the holy Koran(if a muslim) A holy cross/Rosary(If Christian) or a small Buddha statuette, and so on, as per his/her faith. The Ex. will never dare to get rid of those figurines and will remember me at times of worship. I for one won't let go that easily.

Answer 4

I think hes taking it lightly cuz if he really loved you he would fighy for U but

He could love you alot and want U to be happy

Answer 5

the only solution is your cousins tongue in your mouth