behaving in romantic relationships? I don't look at my parents as role models, and I am scared of becoming anything like them. However my mum's rather interesting behaviour with men somehow caused me to act the exact opposite as her...I look at her and I think that she allows her life to be controlled by her partner ( we live in a house that is her boyfriend's- she doens't want a house for her own) and does everything to please him but it seems like she is only with him because we have nowhere else to stay. She splitted up with her previous boyfriend because she cheated on him - but her now boyfriend had a wife so they were practically having an affair - but then this whole thing got very complicated when her now boyfirned suddenly changed his mind about moving in with us - he said he couldn't leave his wife- thern my mum started using shock tactics to get him back such as 'we have nowhere to live etc.' you get what I mean. Since then, around a year or so I have been paranoid of being dependent on boyfriends, that badly I haven't even had one because I just couldn't get this whole thing out of my head about my mum allowing herself to be dependent on her partners so I was extremely terrified of feeling like I was 'controlled' by someone else in a way. I can't trust anyone who approaches me, although I want to, and I know I would end up just using them for sex...Is there any easy way to overcome this?