Friendless high school senior, need advice?

Question

Greets!

As the title might imply, I'm pretty much totally friendless. It's not that I'm completely utterly without social skills, I'm just rarely incapable of taking it to the next level beyond casual conversation/smalltalk. This is made even worse by me being in a high school environment for most of the day, which definitely isn't helping when you're as introverted as me.

Over the course of the last few years at this school I've certainly improved my social skills, but I feel like it's too late to really change my appearance in school. I've already garnered the reputation of being the brooding, quiet guy, which makes it extremely hard to shake it off again. This isn't helped by the fact that, frankly, a lot of the people at my school just aren't very nice. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of cool, interesting people too, but there's just too much gossiping, drama and talking behind each others backs (which is extremely annoying when people are doing it about me, while I can hear them!). It's especially annoying when I think I'm connecting with another person, only to hear them trash you later. This makes me wary every time I'm talking with someone else, simply because I have no clue whether to trust them or not.
It also isn't helped by the fact that my family is aware of my lack of social relations, meaning that I'm constantly pushed to be more outgoing. This makes it really hard for me to act normally when I'm with them somewhere, since I'm constantly thinking about how they'll judge my "performance" (which they do at times D: )
Do I have a lot to work with myself? Yes, indeed! I'm not denying that. I need to be more outgoing right from the start when I'm in a new place, for one thing, and I need to learn to be more trusting.
I'm really looking forward to the end of this school year - even if it seems like the last few years have been a waste of time -

So my questions are, does it get better later, especially in college? And is it very detrimental to my socializing in college that I've been pretty isolated in high school (not just in terms of actual social skills, but, you know, who wants to be friends with a "friendless loser"). And is it damaging that I don't have Facebook? I mean, I'll probably have to make a Facebook account at some point - and, on some level, I'd like to, since it'd make a lot of things much easier in high school - but it just seems so artificial and wrong to "friend" a bunch of people from high school and earlier, whom I never talked that much with, just to increase my friend count.

Thanks in advance, and I hope you can make sense of my rambling :)

Answer 1

Hello :) I can make perfect sense of your "rambling". I also am an introvert and it is hard for me to make or keep friends, because I am really bad about keeping up with communication. In my earlier HS years, I was really shy and didnt have too many friends, but as I got older and more confident, I started being more outgoing, and soon I was friends with almost everyone in my school (I went to a small private school with only about 70 other people). Currently, I am a Sophomore in college. What I can tell you is whether you are an introvert or extrovert doesnt really matter, if you are still living at home, like me, seeing as my college is right down the road. But if you will be living on campus, or off campus in an apartment, being an introvert may well be a bad thing. You will be lonely when you see everyone else hanging out with their friends all over campus, whilst you just go to class and then home to your dorm or apartment. The good thing is, people in college for the most part are more mature. Rarely drama or gossiping. So it could be really easy to make friends. As for me, I went back to my introverted ways, and now I have only one friend. I also dont have a Facebook because I decided to delete mine. I mostly had kids i went to HS with as my friends and I pretty much lost contact with them, so I figure whats the use. Please just make an effort to be outgoing. It will be much easier for you in college. Just dont lead a boring, lonely life like I am right now. I too, need to change and make friends. Good luck to both of us :P

Answer 2

One of the things that attracts me to some people like you are there quite and reserved personality , because when they speak witch isn't often they make a lot of since .



I wouldn't get a face book account because of the nuts on there . stick with Yahoo answerers . Just because you march to a different drum beat doesn't make you a misfit, it makes you unique .



follow your heart in life don't try and be someone your not figure out your principles , your moral and values and stick with them thru out your life and people will always respect and go to you for advise and friend ship you are doing just fine your . You transitioning from a teen into a man and sometimes it can be awkward.

Answer 3

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