Question:
how do i get this guy to go away?
anonymous
2010-09-25 21:36:23 UTC
He is really good friends with my best friend/roommate. So he is over all the time and in my class, so i see him four times a week. He is constantly trying to talk to me, get me to hang out with him, etc, and I keep saying no, but I don't want to be rude or too short with him when he is such good friends with my friend. Is there a non-hurtful way to tell him to get lost? He is irritating as H E double hockey sticks. He comes in my room without asking when my door is open, and tonight he wouldn't leave until I actually said something to my roommate and her boyfriend (who is also good friends with him) pulled him out. Even then he kept sticking his head around the door even after I literally shut it in his face. He seems to misinterpret my being nice to him when with my friends as actually being friends with him. He is puchy, and has even tried to invite himself in on stuff with me with people he doesn't even know. How can i tell him to go away without possibly starting something with my friend and her boyfriend (who i also like, as a friend).
Four answers:
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2010-09-25 21:37:05 UTC
ig nore him
Answer Man
2010-09-26 04:59:20 UTC
Actually, it is good to have people in your life who are difficult to be with. This keeps us humble and compassionate. The problem is when difficult people begin to suck the life out of us.



Since he is desiring friendship with you, it is OK to offer him some of your time. You simply need to control the amount of time you offer him. In your situation, I can't imagine you being successful in controlling this without talking to your roommate.



"I need to talk to you about our friend. He is a great guy, but I enjoy spending time with other people as well. Do you think we could only have him over once (or twice) a week? I need your help on this. It has nothing to do with him being a bad guy. I just need a little bit of space. Will you help me place a decent balance here? Thank you. It means so much."



I see no need to throw him away completely. Don't tell him to take a hike. Instead, offer a little of your time as a free gift. The only people to completely throw away are the ones who will change your kind heart into an unkind one.
hiszbabiecake<3
2010-09-26 04:41:17 UTC
Just be straight up with him, If I were you I'd say :



" Look, you're a nice guy and everything but I don't think you understand that I'm not interested in you. We can be friends but I'm not loooking for anything more with you. " And whenever he annoys you like poking his head in tell him something like " can you please stop doing that, you're making me uncomfortable . " lol
2010-09-26 04:37:21 UTC
tell him you got the aidz


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