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i need some help here. you see my boyfriend use to hit me when he was drunk and he would call me ever name in the book. what did i do i stayed with him because i love him now this was over a year ago. well something happened last night that scared me to death. i was tring to help my boyfriend find something and i clicked on the wrong thing and he got so mad at me that he put his fist up in the air and i had a flash back and i thought he going to hit me so i hit him in the arm not even that hard and he kept on hiting me in my arm. i told him to stop but he did not listen to me.
you see i dont know what to do should just forget about it and let it go or should i leave him. i really dont know. he keeps telling me he did nothing wrong but i know damn well he did. he wants me to say sorry to him for what i did to him what about what he did to me. well i just know that i am not backing down. i am not going to say sorry to someone that hit me. we have been talking since last night.

Answer 1

GET OUT NOW!!!!!! I mean it, get out of there before you have his kids and are tied to him forever. This creep is never going to change. He's even trying to act the victim. Leave him now or soon you will forget what it is like to live without feeling you have to watch everything you say in case you 'upset him' and 'make him hit you'.He will make it all your fault if your stupid enough to stay with him. GO NOW! PACK A BAG AND GO!!

Answer 2

first of all how did the hitting start in the last relationship and second of all is the thought that he might hit you again going to remain in the back of your mind. I agree that no matter what no woman should ever be hit unless shes a dire threat to someone or herself. either way what he did was uncalled for and i can understand what you were going through the moment his fist came up if you decide to stay with him i suggest not living together but if i were you i would not even allow or permit the hitting to even start the fact that he didnt appologize is a huge sign that he felt no remorse for hitting you. and if he is aware of your past relationship he should know better than to raise his hand and he should have respected you enough to not even think of it. i cant tell you if you should stay with him or not because it is your choice no matter what anyone tells you but in my opinion i would make that the first and last time that he layed a hand on you.

Answer 3

Get away from him I know it is hard to do but trust me I went through the same thing a little over a year and a half ago, it will

never change and don't let him tell you that it was because he was drunk, he did do something wrong, let him suffer without you he is the way he is and will not change you need to get away from him and don't let him manipulate you into thinking that it was your fault in anyway. You will find someone better that will treat you right, even if it takes a while it will be worth it for you in the end. You sound like a smart person and I bet you always feel like he is wrong but he probably makes you feel like you are the wrong one? am i right? well I know because it happened to me, you just have to get away and you will be glad you did, Please take my advice seriously because if you don't you will be in a much harder position later, he won't change and It will happen again, men like this never get better they get worse.

Answer 4

Princess, you need to wake up!! This is the way abuse starts. Do you want to live a life of physical abuse? He needs help and you can not give it to him. I would guarantee that some where in his life he has been abused. It is a life cycle and he CAN break it but with help. You need to get out while the getting out is good. If he truly loves you he will do something about his problem. He needs help from a source other that you. Some times it is called tough love to back away but that may be what he needs. By staying you will be an enabler to his problem and possibly end up badly hurt in the future if he does not get help now.

Answer 5

Were is ur self esteem woman? Y r u even asking, u should be gone alrady. Its not a quistion of weather u love him or not its a quistion on how much u love ur self and ur self worth. How much do u love ur futer children, do u want ur daughter being with someone like that or or son toi grow up thinking its ok to hit woman. Whats wrong with u. Some day hes going to just snap on u and he could kill u or serisly hurt and make u handicaped. When peoiple like that get angry they black out and do no when to stop. think abotu it this way if u dont care enough about ur self to leave and make ur self happy then he sure as hell isent going to care. U need ( have) to leaver him, come u alrady new the anser to that one. Need to talk Email me aat [e-mail]

Answer 6

You already know the answer to your question: leave him flat! Any man who hits any woman for any reason doesn't deserve to be in a relationship until they learn that violence solves nothing. A punch in the arm eventually turns into a punch in the face. And a band aide turns into a trip to the hospital--it never gets better, only worse. If you love him, leave him. If you hate yourself, stay with him. A leopard rarely changes his spots. There are plenty of men out there who would love and respect you. Dump the scoundrel!

Answer 7

Men are not supposed to hit women. I know that women sometimes keep badgering a guy. To control his anger, he should walk away from her. The woman needs to realize that he needs space and give it to him. He should come back apologizing and likewise you need to figure out ways to discuss things without it coming to blows.



NOTHING is solved if he is continuously badgered and he losses control of his temper and acts out violently.



Your boyfriend needs to apologize for ever raising his fist to you. You need to accept it and I would suggest boundaries.



If he is unwilling to change his ways. You have no alternative but to get away from him. If he keeps going unchallenged, where will he stop? Suppose you break up with him and the next girl he encounters, he kills her or worse yet, he kills you.



He needs serious help and I don't think that you hanging around him is going to do it. Alcohol or Not. It doesn't matter, he's got a serious problem that needs to be dealt with professionally.

Answer 8

i am going to tell you this from my heart. you really need to leave him. and i know that deep inside that you know you need to leave him to. it will only get worse. and no woman deserves to get hit by a man that so call loves them. if he really loved you he wouldnt hit you. it doesnt matter what yall been through or anything. the only thing that matter is that he hit you. and you dont need to take that. and you are putting your own life in danger. just be safe and do what is right. go stay with some one you know. a brother parents cousin sister friend anybody that you trust. you dont need to be around . i know you heard all of these stories about woman who got hit by the person that they love and the end up dying. i dont want that to be you. be smart follow you instincts. you deserve better. i really hope i helped. believe me i will pray for you.

Answer 9

the bad thing is you hit him first. you should always wait till they throw the first punch. if he wasn't hiting you hard enough to hurt you i would say im sorry if you are. but if he was trying to hurt you i would show him the road. a real man does not hit a woman. but also when a woman puts her self in a mans place by hiting him she can expect to get hit back. even the most loving man has trouble holding his temper.

Answer 10

If he hit you the first time and you remained with him he knows that he can continue to do so. I am not telling you to leave your bf but he needs some counselling because once they are abusive from the get go it only gets worse as the relationship is more molded. Honestly my opinion is to get out while you can don't wait until it is too late

Answer 11

Let him know that your last boyfriend hit you and you left him. If this guy loves you...he'll know that you mean business. You hit him which was wrong but he hit too and doesn't admit that it's wrong. Tell him that you're sorry for hitting him because hitting is wrong but he needs to recognize that he can't hit you either. Be careful and good luck!

Answer 12

LEAVE HIM!!! There is no reason for a man to hit a woman. If you lived close to me i would make sure that he didnt do it again. I would hit him for you. That type of behavoir is unexceptable and shouldnt be tolerated. There are safe houses that you can go to. You have to involve the local athorities though. I am really sorry that happened to you. NO woman deserves to be hit no matter what they did or didnt do.

Answer 13

omg! girl u gotta run out of that relationship that guy is not good for you, i was in a similar situation i know how it feels, n i too got back with my bf (now ex) after he hit me, but trust me the best thing u can do is get out of that relationship, trust me i know how it is he swears he didnt do nothing wrong and it was your fault but u know the truth and u know is not like that, you deserve better and that guy needs help, you have to go to the police if he bruised u or something talke pix of it, because when u break up with him he is gonna beg you to go back with him and he is gonna promise you that he is gonna change but is not true he is gonna change for a lil while and then go back to the same thing, girl please do it for you, if you stay with him he is gonna end up hitting you even worse n he could even kill you, talk to a friend or a family member that could help you but u need to get out of there for your own safety, trust me ive been there! i know you think u love him to death but you will realize later that u deserve better n if you stay there u might realize it a lil too late. good luck!

Answer 14

Sprint - don't run, sprint from this guy as fast as you can. This is not a boy friend. This is a boy fiend. What he did was wrong AND illegal.

Having a flashback is telling you it has already happened too often. You are scarred by this. The fact that he does not take responsibility for it being wrong is scarey. This is called being amoral and is one of the most dangerous situations around.

SPRINT!

Answer 15

he doesn't respect you, you are not his equal in his eyes you are beneath him. YOU NEED TO LEAVE NOW! and get a restraining order on him and press charges!

If you do end up not leaving you shoudln't stay unless he goes to anger management and gets serious help, but doesn't sound like he even realizes he did anything wrong. HE NEEDS TO GO and now that you are to the point where you will hit him too its not going to go anywhere else but even further down hill....

Answer 16

Love goes both ways. Most men if they hit you once they may hit you again. He needs to find a way to work out his differences without hitting. If he cant do this you should probably find someone different.

Answer 17

Logic won't help you. Seems like you're as addicted to love and stress as some people are to gambling.

Honey, I had to give up on someone like that. For me, his family took him away from me when he crashed into several cars while high.

I had it easy.

I know what you're going through, but no one can be saved save by oneself.

Does that make sense to you?

You need to be safe, not just from him, but from your own needs to be in such a destructive relationship.

Get professional help in order to break this relationship and fix your own dark corners. You need to heal from more than him.

Good luck!

Answer 18

you do not deserve to be abused in anyway, under no circumstances..!! It is not ok for him to touch you.

You say you love him...how and why do you love him?

And let's say you really do love him, for whatever reason, fine. The question is then, do you love yourself? If you do, for the love of you, please leave this man; don't let yourself be so disrespected.

He has some violence problems, like a lot of people do. You can help him seek some council maybe, but he should not let out his anger and reflect his problems on you.

please don't allow yourself to be in a position of abuse anymore.

Answer 19

hey i know how you feel my boy friend used to hit me he was with some other girl but they were married and he had a son with her and that's when i met him he hit me so hard 1 time i hit the floor and he just keep hitting me and i went to work the next day and all the workers knew that he hit me well 2 weeks ago he left and he STOL my s.u.v and know he is with my friend and every day i see her she is all beat up!!! so leave him!!!

Answer 20

Sweetie you need to let him go. No one deserves to be abused and for your own protection you need to stay away from him. He doesn't respect you and doesn't love you. If he really loved you he wouldn't hit you or disrespect you in any way. PLEASE end this relationship asap. There are battered women shelters you can receive advice and counseling from. Don't apologize cause you have done nothing wrong. You need to start loving yourself and break away from him. If you need more advice you can email me at [e-mail]. My name is Lisa.

Answer 21

What ever his problem is you did not cause it. He's a n abusive coward, and willnot stop until he hurts you. His urges to hurt someone smaler than he is will increase and if you have children late rhe will abuse them.

Leave th ebum before you get hurt seriously or become pregrant and give him someone else to hurt.

People who do this are sick and only he him self can seek treatment.



Don't wait until you or your child become a fatility to his temper.

Answer 22

Get out of the relationship now! Leave today. You are a victim of abuse and you do not deserve that! No-one does. Your boyfriend needs professional help and you, my dear need counselling. There are plenty of organisations in the phone book that you can contact for the correct advice. Please leave him today. Save yourself.

Answer 23

You should pack your things and leave now!

It will not get better it will get WORSE! Think if you had a child.

Would he hit the child also...how would you feel then?

It's abuse !

Answer 24

he shouldnt hit at all what will happen when one night he drinks too muh and goes too far and really hurts you you ned to leave or he needs to find some help for his anger

Answer 25

oh hell no he's a ***** fir hitting you and you im sorry to say but look at my screen name take it or leave it you stupid for sticking with him if he hits you once he gonna l=hit you a gain leave that ***** and find somebody to beat his *** you are a Queen and need never to be hit and he stupid and inogrant fir hitting you i beat he dont hit theses ****** like that. his corny ***. gr=irl you are aqueen and need to be hit by no one. defently a man. Be strong and let your heart hurt for his love but dont let your body hurt from his hits

Answer 26

leave his crazy azz before it gets out of control , a guy that hits a girlis a wacko

Answer 27

Well, your name is Princess and I don't think that a PRincess should be treated that way. What's the matter with you . Get out before you get hurt.

Answer 28

u need to leave this guy NOW!!! Ure gonna end up gettin your *** kicked by him really bad. Not healthy, and it just gets worse

Answer 29

You know the answer, get out. He's a dangerous moron who will do you real harm one day, if your stupid enough to stay.

Answer 30

You need to kick him out of the house.

Answer 31

did u tell your mom and dad , this is what u do , if u really love him get him to stop drinking,or you leave him.

Answer 32

Someone who would stay with that bullshit is crazy. You should have packed your bags a year ago.

Answer 33

you don't want to stay with some one like that if you do you are telling him it is ok

Answer 34

ok i think u should leave him. who wants to be with someone they are not secure and comfortable with.

Answer 35

LEAVE NOW!