My girlfriend is going to be my step sister?

Question

My mom started dating this guy in November of 2014. He would come to visit often with his daughter. We became very good friends and eventually started dating. We kept it under wraps for a while until we got sick of living in secrecy. We came out to our friends and then to our parents. Our friends felt it was kind of strange but they were cool with it. Our parents, however felt that our relationship is disgusting, incestuous and wrong. Im not biologically related to my girlfriend. We didn t grow up together, it s not incest. Most people can t comprehend that, especially our parents. They constantly refer to us as brother and sister and they ve only been together 10 months. They re no even engaged. They don t allow us to sit next to eachother and they don t let us stay in the same room alone. They constantly try to break us up and I just cant deal with it anymore. I love my girlfriend. I love her as my girlfriend and not as my sister, she ll never be my sister, never was. We may become step siblings but we re never going to be blood related. I love her so much and our parents just don t care. I don t know what to do anymore. Our parents are completely against us and I just don t understand why. What do I do? Please help. Thank you.

Answer 1

They are getting married and that would make you step brother and sister but the problem with that is you started dating her and now you will never view her as a sister and since you seem to be old enough at least teenaged you're pretty aware of your feelings. They can't force you to stop liking her despite their relationship they can make it hard for you to be with her but remember this girl is part of your life forever so be VERY very sure you see a future with her before you do anything serious because you can't remove her from your life after that

Answer 2

You dating her isn't incest since you're not biologically related to her. Nor was it necessarily wrong because as you said your parents were only dating/not engaged. Yet it is still is kinda weird and can be complicated if either sets of relationships split. Since the parents met and dated first, I think its best if you break up with her. They've been dating for 10 months which means marriage is a high possibility and dating your step-sister would be weird. If the parents break up, you could always get back together.

Answer 3

If she is not related to you then there is nothing wrong with dating or going out with each other. Don't know how old the two of you are, but if you're both 18 or over your parents can't stop you from being together as boy and girl friend. If not then you could always see and be with each other outside of the house.

Answer 4

No incest here so i don't know why you can't date each other you're not even blood related , you know what maybe when your mom marries your girlfriends dad that might be just really awkward for both parents since you two will be step siblings, maybe they both have this old traditional mind set .

Answer 5

I think you need to be a communist in terms of your parents democratic ideas. Flee this party with your girlfriend. and convert into Vinnyism, it's whats best for you and your girl.



Triangulation has been forming in the top of the fan's gutters; which promotes a lot of facism, as Hitler's brother has done so; by developing the shelves to smoke. It is known to get someone 'high' upon first smoke; as Francois from Provigo has done this experiment, and he is doing the same at aisle 15. While Francois was high, he told me to meet him up at aisle 3 where the shelves are. Seems like the shelves have gotten him so high that he is unable to remember and know his surroundings.



Shelves are love. Shelves are life.

Vinny is love. Vinny is life.

Answer 6

If you can better to heed to your parents' opinion. . step sister is also sister. This is just an emotional matter. If you cannot do so, just wait for some time more till you are self dependent and can live independently.

Answer 7

Your parents need to adjust their relationship--since it is similar to which came first--the chicken or the egg.



They went ahead of themselves by referring to you both as siblings.



Their selfishness is beyond measure--since they are dictating to you--something that is beyond your control and within their--they need to get a life and allow you to live yours.



By the way--i am a parent and i do advocate kids to respect their parents--but the manner in which this came about is not a traditional way--whereby they were not aware of your connection.



I am also a religious person and do not take this lightly -- if it were necessary--in this case they are literally putting the CART before the Horse--



Then if they dont get married and the same thing happens again to another guy--and you happen to love the person--



Just saying--don't really know who are the adults here.



BTW: I do love your explanation and you do seem to be a reasonable young person and stated your case in a very balanced way--i do respect your position and attitude on this.

Answer 8

Your parents do not have any right to force that upon you. You are not blood related, and there cannot be any legal or social consequences to your relationship. If you both are over 18, you can simply tell them to shut up... after securing jobs of course, in case they threaten to give you both the boot from the house. you should move out of that house anyway. Then there is nothing they can do about this.

Answer 9

Incest happens between people with biological kinship, you cannot commit incest with your girlfriend.



The adults in your life are uncomfortable with the idea of adolescent romance and sexuality between their respective children. It is essentially their problem.



Not knowing any of the people as you do, I don't know what to advise about handling this. Are there adults who can explain your side of this to your mom? Be sure to use very good birth control if you are sexually active and don't give them anything else to be upset and negative about.

Answer 10

If I had to vote I would give David best answer because family get togethers from now into eternity will be really weird if you don't end up marrying her. Be sure she is the one you are going to spend the rest of your life with before moving forward.

Answer 11

You can't help who you fall in love with & If you both love each other the same & Then stick it out,,, it's what you & Your girlfriend feel for each other & If your parents love you regardless im sure they'll come round in the end

Answer 12

You break up with her and encourage your mother to either break up with her boyfriend, or have them move out. It'll be extremely awkward living with your ex.

You're practically in an incest relationship (like your mom/stepdad said) & since your mom was dating your girlfriends dad before you actually started dating your girlfriend it's only fair that you two break up instead of the parents breaking up.

Answer 13

Wow that's hot! What is your mothers problem with it? Your mothers boyfriend is a hypocrite. Have a word with the chicks father. Say this: What is your problem with me (you) banging his daughter after all he is serving it up to your mum. i would annoy the father without gf or mother knowing, leave used condoms in plain sight lol. you and the girlfriend are not related , so bang on brother.

Answer 14

there is nothing wrong in dating a step. it is not incest. you are not even related, much less blood related. with all that said, sadly you will notg be able to do anything about this, or with her. your parents, your parent and her parent, are never going to allow anything to happen. all you can do is wait until one of you moves to your own place, then you can start seeing each other the way you want to see each other.

Answer 15

I think that your mom and her boyfriend are being a bit wrong and selfish if they are trying to end your relationship because of their own. You aren't blood related, and as you said, they are not even engaged. If you truly love her, you should be allowed to be with her. Your mom should realize that.

Answer 16

Wait till both you and your girlfriend are of legal age then move out with her. According to the definition of incest, this is not incest. It's only comes under incest according to the law once both of your parents get married.

Answer 17

Sounds like a mess... It's not incest because you are not related. Your parents are not married either, but you can't really be together if the parents are that together. I'm sorry!!!

Answer 18

You can still love her. You are not blood related. O lyrics through marriage. Keep loving. You don't need to feel guilty or bad.

Answer 19

Your parents are a bit dim. There is nothing wrong with you dating or having a relationship with someone you're not related to... and you're not related, you never will be.

Answer 20

Don't listen to your parents. If they can't be happy for you, then seriously, **** them. How can they say that their love is right and yours is wrong? Explain to them that you two have the same right to fall in love with whomever you want! Just like them.

Answer 21

honestly heres what id do. i would lie to my mom and have my gf lie to her dad and say you guys both broke up and realized how bad it was. but in reality, you will still be dating and then you can go from there. if you two end up being step siblings, then u will have all the time together and that would be fine by me.

Answer 22

step sister dont mean jack **** you are not related by blood therefore there aint nothing wrong with it seeing as she will be living with you it might just make your relationship stronger :) hope it works out

Answer 23

I think you need to talk to your mother about this. There is nothing wrong with you dating a girl you like, and she is not even biologically related to you. Your mother has her own love life, and so do you. But do not be disrespectful to your mother even if you disagree on this. Try to find a solution. If you really need more help, find a advisor and talk to him/her about your troubles. Maybe it will help

Answer 24

Have you ever seen that show Teen Mom...I believe it is Tyler and Kaitlynne on there who were in this situation. His dad was married or dating her mom. It is weird...but you are not blood related and were not raised as siblings. Your parents are dating...and you are dating, too. So who cares. Do what you want to do. its your life.

Answer 25

Your relationship between you and your GIRLFRIEND is between y'all. Not your parents. So, don't let whatever your parents do effect y'all.

Answer 26

I sleep with my actual sister and as long as you don't get her pregnant it's cool. so i'd say you're in the clear

Answer 27

Wow you parents are weirdos. You guys sound like a nice couple. Can you get a teacher to talk to them and talk some sense in to them?

Answer 28

They made a movie about this.

It's called "Lone Star State of Mind" give it a look, it just might change your mind about your sissa.

Answer 29

Your mother and her father must be mentally challenged to think that them being married would make you related to your g/f. STAND YOUR GROUND if you're serious about her, tell them you will marry her and then move away.

Answer 30

the pastor that married me and my husband told use he lived with his wife for 10 years before they married They were step sibling so yes it is very okay you are not related.

Answer 31

Watch Living Life with Derek, it might help you out.

Answer 32

If you are not bound by a blood relationship, then it is not incest or any other weird ****. This just shows how much you really love each other.

Answer 33

you're young.

there is right love vs wrong love.

in your case, both your parents are a couple ... married or not.

that makes a relationship bet. you and the girl ... v v wrong.



love is not the end of the world ... duh.

find another girl and she must find another boy.

why did YOU choose the girl that belongs to your mother's bf, huh?

Answer 34

i don't see what the issue with this, you're not biologically related to each other so why would it be classed as incest ?

Answer 35

As long as you are not blood related it's ok....

Answer 36

You're going to see her naked every day now.

Answer 37

When you're banging her just keep saying who's your daddy, WHO'S YOUR DADDY!

Answer 38

Its incest. Its wrong. You 2 need to break up...but do what you want

Answer 39

1)is she loving u?

2)may be ur mom & that guy is dating together

simple

Answer 40

sorry dude, if they get married you can't get married lol

Answer 41

ok creepy but i guess I have to break it to you.

you will never be able to marry her

Answer 42

hurry up and get married before they do.

Answer 43

enjoy your love, there is nothing wrong with it!

Answer 44

thats fine. have alot of sex with her

Answer 45

You do what you want,

Answer 46

thats nasty

answemrien

Answer 47

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